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Dec 26, 2017

Welcome to episode 51 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Deborah Beaumont. We talk about how cancer diagnosis may affect an individual’s sexuality and sex life, the effects it can have a survivors’ intimate relationships and coping mechanisms recommended to improve their sexual health.


Deborah Beaumont is an Advanced Practice Registered Nurse and two-time cancer survivor. After her last experience with cancer (bilateral breast cancer) and multiple complications from treatments she was frustrated with conventional medicine telling he the only thing she could do to prevent another recurrence of cancer was to take prescriptions, get yearly check-ups and hope for the best that it didn't return. Feeling there was a need to know about more about prevention and making treatment decisions that supported having a good quality of life (given all the treatment and medication side effects she experienced) she immersed herself in learning about holistic and integrative treatment that complimented the medical advice she was being given.


She is now a certified functional medicine practitioner and is a holistic and integrative health coach supporting women and empowering them to make treatment decisions not only in treating cancer reclaiming their health and having a good quality of life after chemo and active treatment is done. She emphasizes an integrative mind-body approach to health, healing and living.


She works with women by phone and Skype and provides coaching and consultation to women looking for holistic and integrative recovery.


In this episode, you will hear:

  • How cancer diagnosis may affect individual’s sexuality and sex life
  • Sexual side effects from post cancer treatment
  • Knowing that it’s ok for women not to be sexual after cancer treatment
  • How cancer can affect survivors’ intimate relationships?
  • The psychological differences between sexual side effects of post cancer treatment and cosmetic surgeries      
  • Coping mechanisms recommended to survivors as a way to improve their sexual health




Dec 19, 2017

Welcome to episode 50 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dan Griffin, M.A., who talks to us about the meaning behind “The Man Rules”, his thoughts on recent sexual allegations that have broken in the media and the importance of context and consent in alternative sexual behaviors.

Dan Griffin, M.A., is an internationally recognized author, thought leader, and expert on men’s relationships and masculinity.

Dan’s work and life is dedicated to exploring and redefining what it means to be a man in the 21st century. Dan is dedicated to helping men be better men by understanding the impact of the Man Rules on their lives and finding the success in their personal lives they are striving for in the professional lives. Griffin’s book, A Man’s Way through Relationships, is the first book written specifically to help men create healthy relationships while navigating the challenges of the “Man Rules™,” those ideas men internalize at very young ages about how to be real boys and men. In 2015, Dan was honored to be named a Senior Fellow at the world renowned leader for treating addiction and trauma, The Meadows.

Griffin’s professional background includes over two decades in the mental health and addictions field. He is also the author of A Man’s Way through the Twelve Steps, the first trauma-informed book to take a holistic look at men’s sobriety. He co-authored Helping Men Recover, the first comprehensive gender-responsive and trauma-informed curriculum for addiction and mental health professionals. Griffin earned a Master’s degree in Sociology from the University of Kansas where his graduate work was the first qualitative study centered on the social construction of masculinity in the culture of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Dan grew up in the DC area and lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Nancy, and his daughter, Grace, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since he graduated college in May of 1994. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The meaning behind “The Man Rules”
  • Dan’s thoughts on recent sexual allegations that have broken in the media
  • Do we relieve abusers of their actions if they’re sex addicts?
  • Recommendations to be more relational in your sexuality
  • Can we change our erotic template?
  • The importance of context and consent in alternative sexual behaviors
  • How a man might react differently from when they’re in recovery from sexual addiction to when they’re in the midst of it




Dec 12, 2017

Welcome to episode 49 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dr. Joe Kort, Ph.D. He talks to us about why some straight men are drawn to gay sex, the taboo of talking about this topic and how are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction. 

Psychotherapist, coach and author Joe Kort, Ph.D., MSW, MA founded his practice in 1985. Its specialties include: Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy, emphasizing how being knowledgeable about gay issues informs the therapeutic process, and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, a specific program to help couples and singles learn to improve their communication and relationship skills. It is based on the books Getting The Love You Want and Keeping The Love You Find by Dr. Harville Hendrix. 

This practice specializes in sex therapy and sexual identity issues, including Out-Of-Control Sexual Behavior; responsible non-monogamy/monogamy; childhood sexual, physical and emotional abuse; mixed-orientation marriages; coming out; and depression and anxiety. The group offers workshops for couples and singles.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • Why some straight men are drawn to gay sex but aren’t gay
  • The compartmentalization men can make between gay sex and being gay
  • How society says it’s ok for women to have sex other women but not the same for men
  • How trauma reenactment can play a role in this issue
  • The taboo and difficulty to talk about this with partners
  • How are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction?
  • How the more this issue gets repressed, the more it will come up
  • The role shame plays around this issue
  • How homophobia can be used as a smokescreen





Dec 5, 2017

Welcome to episode 48 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Quandra Chaffers, LCSW. In this episode we talk about how masturbation can become a form of violence, the trauma nonconsensual masturbation creates and why the actions of Harvey Weinstein and Louis C.K were acts of violence.

Quandra Chaffers, LCSW is a Certified Sex Educator through AASECT the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists, and also a Certified EMDR Therapist. She boasts over 10 years of experience working with sexual violence survivors as both a crisis intervention counselor and a psychotherapist. For six years, she made a career in treating violent offenders as a facilitator for a batters intervention program.

Quandra strives to help men and women overcome rape, intimate partner violence, sexual acting out, and a host of other sex related issues. She believes that sexual health is the natural solution to sexual violence. Her private practice Sexual Abuse and Sex Solutions is located on the cusp of the Nob Hill district in San Francisco and helps clients address both sexual trauma and problematic sexual behaviors. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How masturbation can become a form of violence
  • Where is the line between out of control sexual behaviour and violence?
  • Why the actions of Harvey Weinstein and Louis C.K were acts of violence
  • The damage Kevin Spacey did by using his coming out as a smokescreen for sexual abuse
  • The trauma nonconsensual masturbation creates
  • Understanding the root causes of why people become sexual offenders
  • The importance and need to learn to have more empathy



Nov 28, 2017

Welcome to episode 47 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Jeanette Tolson who talks to us about what constitutes consent, what might stop someone from reporting sexual assault and how can we create a culture of consent.

Jeanette Tolson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor in New York.  She earned her Master’s in Social Work at SUNY Albany and completed a Postgraduate Certificate in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education at the University of Michigan.  

Prior to opening her private practice in 2015, she was the Executive Director for a not for profit community recovery organization.  Ms. Tolson currently has an academic appointment at SUNY Delhi and been teaching there continuously since 2009. Ms. Tolson has worked in a variety of outpatient settings. Her clinical interests include working with relationships from an attachment perspective, LGBTQ issues, recovery from infidelity, and substance use disorders.

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In this episode, you will hear:


  • What constitutes consent?
  • How yes doesn’t mean yes all the time
  • What is sexualized hostility?
  • Why perpetrators find it arousing to terrorize their victim
  • What might stop someone from reporting sexual assault
  • The ways in which alcohol can affect these situations during and after the assault
  • How can we create a culture of consent?




Nov 21, 2017

Welcome to episode 46 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW who talks about the factors that contribute to a loss of passion, the differences between hook up sex, marital sex and making love and how intimacy tends to only be associated with sex.  

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW is an author and podcaster specializing in helping couples to create a true and authentic love story where they both feel secure and important. His thirty plus years as a therapist have given him a unique perspective on love and relationships. 

The Couples Expert Podcast is produced weekly and has an international following on iTunes; currently with over 100,000 downloads and growing. The podcast brings Stuart together with experts from all over the world; in the field of love and relationships. In-depth and insightful discussions on all facets of adult relationships are addressed on The Couples Experts podcast. In addition to his Podcast, clinical and online work, Stuart also facilitates seminars and workshops employing emotionally-focused couples therapy; as well as intensive counseling weekends designed to help couples get to the heart of their struggles and find the answers they are seeking for a closer and more connected loving relationship.

Stuart is available to speak on topics including:

Surviving Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust

Finding Love in Middle Age

Having a Closer Connection with Your Partner § Sexuality and Monogamy

Same-Sex Relationships

Making Your Good Relationship Great


In this episode, you will hear:

  • The factors that can contribute to a loss of passion
  • How a couple’s sex language can be different and the importance for open communication
  • The difficulty to connect when there’s unresolved emotions with our partners
  • The differences between hook up sex, marital sex and making love
  • Why people struggle with synchrony sex
  • How intimacy tends to only be associated with sex




Nov 14, 2017

Welcome to episode 45 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sara Sweetly. Sara shares her story of how she became interested and involved in this work, misconceptions that exist around fetishes and tips on how to have great phone sex.


Sara is a professional Dominatrix and phone sex operator who works primarily with clients in the fetish and kink community. Sara’s goal is to help her clients find a way to express their sexuality without restrictions or the unpleasant feeling of judgment. To Sara, helping her clients means helping them to find the sexual answers that could lead to a path of greater self-discovery and overall healthier relationships for them.


Sara believes that it is possible to uncover your true sexual capabilities and to experience the sex life that you are truly worthy of. She is the founder of the Must Love Fetish podcast, an educational sexuality podcast dedicated to exploring and finding ways to bridge the vanilla and kinky worlds. This interview-style podcast features a new fetish and guest every week – and explores the psychology behind fetishes in order to help people better understand what it is like to live with one.


Sara has been featured on numerous podcasts, including consensually speaking, sex + love with sexologist Randi Levinson, and now sexology podcast. She has been the guest on several live radio talk shows, including the Rob & Slim show – where she often busts the misconceptions about phone sex and sex work in a light-hearted manner. With a background in psychology, Sara is currently working towards her sex coaching certification and eventual Doctorate in Human Sexuality.


During her free time, she produces audiobooks and her voice can be heard on both Amazon Audible and iTunes. Sara likes to think of herself as a producer of aural pornography, and hopes to create a workshop in which she can teach couples the art of dirty talk in order to enhance their relationships. Sara is currently working on her first book “Aural Sex: The Art Of Dirty Talk as Foreplay.” (working title) 


In this episode, you will hear:


  • How Sara became interested and involved in this work
  • The common and uncommon fetishes Sara hears on the phone
  • Misconceptions that exist around fetishes
  • How this line of work has created a good business for Sara
  • The types of role play Sara will participate in on the phone
  • How many people like to be submissive in their phone calls
  • Tips on how to have great phone sex




Nov 7, 2017

Welcome to episode 44 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Elise Carr, M.A. who talks to us about understanding Tantra, the benefits of adopting a Tantric lifestyle and how you can use Tantra even if you’re not in a relationship.

Elise Carr is the Woman behind StellaMuse, known as the ‘Pioneer of Yoni-Heart-Mind Power’ she mentors, councils and advises your journey of Awakening from Within through Sacred Guidance, Sacred Sexuality, Spirituality & Soul.

With unwavering enthusiasm, fierce dedication and spirited insight, Elise guides inspirational and aspirational souls on a purpose driven, joy filled mission away from fear, dissatisfaction and illusion, and into courageous love and mental clarity; guiding them to a live life as their most authentic, nourished and unique selves.

Elise is also a student of the Mysteries and a certified; Holistic Life/Health Coach, Tantra practitioner and Reiki Master, as well as a Writer, Speaker, Model and Artist.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Understanding Tantra and what is sacred sexuality?
  • How Elise began her journey into the world of Tantra
  • What the practice of Tantra usually looks like
  • How Tantra is a way of life and more than just sex
  • The way in which Tantra can expand consciousness
  • The overall benefits of adopting a Tantric lifestyle
  • Learning to schedule time with your partner
  • How you can use Tantra even if you’re not in a relationship


Oct 31, 2017

Welcome to episode 43 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Lisa Wade. In this episode, we talk about the difference between sex and gender, external and internal factors that may influence gender identity and the double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues.


Lisa Wade is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today.


Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara.


Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • The difference between sex and gender
  • Gender identity and sexual orientation – is there a relationship between them?
  • External and internal factors that can influence gender identity
  • What it means to identify as gender non-confirming
  • The relationship between biological and societal factors that can affect our gender identity
  • How societal intuitions of power try to keep the status quo to protect their own power
  • Parenting and gender identity
  • The double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues





Oct 24, 2017

Welcome to episode 42 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Anita Johnson. In this episode, Dr. Anita Johnson shares with us how to heal your relationship with your body and reclaim power of feminine energy. 

Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon, which has been published in six languages. She is the co-creator of the online course, Light of the Moon Café which is an interactive “workbook” and women’s support circle for Eating in the Light of the Moon, and she is the author of a book chapters and other professional journal articles.

She has been working in the field of women’s issues and disordered eating for over 35 years and is currently the Clinical Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii which has outpatient eating disorder programs in Honolulu, the Big Island of Hawaii, and a residential treatment program in Maui.

Dr. Johnston provides individual consultations online, and conducts Soul Hunger workshops and professional trainings around the world, using metaphor and storytelling, along with her training as a clinical psychologist, to address the complex issues that underlie struggles with eating, weight, and body image.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why women today are dissatisfied with their image
  • How feminine energy is connected to the earth
  • Understanding your intuition and instinct
  • The resonation people feel with her book “Eating In The Light Of The Moon”
  • How food habits are linked to sexual desires and behaviours
  • The power of feminine energy and the need to understand it better
  • The need to have better support networks around ourselves




Oct 17, 2017

Welcome to episode 41 of the Sexology Podcast. Today I am joined by Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz who talks to us about male sexual arousal, the common causes for sexual dysfunction and the pros and cons of using PED5 inhibitors.


Dr. Pomeranz is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist with a practice in Silicon Valley. In addition to her private practice, she also works as a staff psychologist at Stanford University. Dr. Pomeranz earned her doctorate in clinical psychology in the Bay Area and has worked in a number of diverse settings, including the San Francisco jail, Salvation Army rehabilitation center, and UC Davis Medical System. She spent 9 years at the Boston VA, focusing on substance use disorders, sexual trauma, and out of control sexual behaviors.


Dr. Pomeranz recognizes the importance between sexual and emotional well-being and believes that not enough clinicians are talking with their clients about this important topic. In her private practice in Menlo Park she treats individuals who are struggling with a variety of sexual health concerns, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, desire discrepancy, genito-pelvic pain, female orgasmic disorder, penetration disorders, sexual trauma, gender/sexual identity, and alternative sexual lifestyles. In addition, Dr. Pomeranz treats substance use disorders and other addictive behaviors, including out-of-court sexual behaviors, utilizing a harm reduction model. Dr. Pomeranz is a member of AASECT and Bay Area Open Minds.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • Gender differences with sexual arousal
  • Does penal erection hardness correspond to arousal?
  • Common causes for sexual dysfunction in men
  • What you can do as partner to help with erectile dysfunction
  • The link and misconceptions around ageing and erectile dysfunction
  • How certain medications can be harmful to people’s relationships
  • The feelings of shame that can occur around this issue
  • Ways in which you can approach and support your partner through this



Oct 10, 2017

Welcome to episode 40 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Gigi Engle! In this episode, Gigi discusses why some sexual fantasies are common, and whether they should stay as fantasies or manifest into a reality!


Gigi Engle is a writer and sex educator. She was the head sex and dating writer for Elite Daily and Thrillist Media Group before launching a career in freelance writing and sex education. She's written and reported for a variety of magazines and websites including Cosmopolitan, Elle, Teen Vogue, Marie Claire, Glamour, Brides and many more.


Gigi teaches classes and workshops focused on sex ed basics like Vibrator 101 to Buttplugs for Beginners to feminist topics like Vulva Confidence and The Orgasm Gap. She is currently working on her first book, a feminist sex guidebook, with St. Martin's Press, an imprint of MacMillen.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Where our sexual fantasies come from
  • How you can learn more about your sexual template from fantasies
  • Rape fantasies: why people have them
  • Recommendations on what to share or not share with your partner when it comes to fantasies
  • Why just because you have a fantasy, doesn’t mean you want it to happen
  • Having good communication with your partner to avoid shame
  • Making compromises with your partner for sexual fantasies
  • How the media and pornography can form some of our fantasies

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Oct 3, 2017

Welcome to episode 39 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. who talks to us about orgasms, the different types of women's orgasm, common factors that may attribute to not experiencing orgasms and the importance to have open communication to improve your sexual life.

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, professor and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live fuller, richer lives through the art and science of psychology. 

As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students, helping them find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards, and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association.

Dr. Mintz is the author of two popular and highly acclaimed books—both written with the aim of empowering women sexually: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get it (HarperOne, 2017) and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship (Adams Media, 2009).

With this same goal of providing scientifically-accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure, Dr. Mintz also writes a popular Psychology Today blog. She also gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences and is often quoted in national and international media. For over 25 years, Dr. Mintz has also maintained a small private practice. One of her greatest honors is to help clients reach their goals and to live fuller, more authentic lives.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How to know whether you’ve reached orgasm or not
  • The different types of orgasm women can have
  • How most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm
  • The different standards that exist between women and men on the issue
  • Common factors that can attribute to not experiencing orgasm
  • Feelings of shame that can occur through not being able to orgasm
  • Potential evolutionary benefits of having orgasms
  • The importance to have open communication to improve your sexual life


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Sep 26, 2017

Welcome to episode 38 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Piper Grant. Dr. Grant is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, sex therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and founder of Numi Psychology. In this episode, we talked about the common emotions women may experience after discovering sexual betrayal and steps they can take when starting their journey of recovery.

Dr. Grant has extensive experience working with couples and individuals in healing ruptures within their relationship, overcoming sexual dysfunction, deepening their intimacy, and (re)building a strong foundation within their relationship. She specializes in working with individuals and couples on issues related to sex, intimacy, and trauma. 

Although based in Los Angeles, California, Dr. Piper seeks to reach individuals and couples internationally in recovery from sex addiction and healing from sexual betrayal by hosting retreats in Bali for women who have experienced sexual betrayal and couples in recovery from sex addiction. These are the only retreats hosted in Bali that are tailored to help couples and individuals on issues related to sexual betrayal and hosted by a Psychologist and CSAT.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The common emotions women may experience after discovering sexual betrayal
  • How a woman’s self-image can be damaged
  • Recommendations for getting in touch with your feminine intuitive self
  • The challenges of the grieving process
  • Libido changes that can occur following sexual betrayal
  • The repeating cycle that can happen through multiple relationships
  • Steps you can take when starting your journey of recovery



Sep 19, 2017

Welcome to episode 37 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Six who speaks to me about sexual performance anxiety, the different ways it manifests between men and women and knowing when it’s time to seek professional help with this issue.

Dr. Six has 25 years as a practicing Clinical Sexologist, and is a successful sex therapist who has helped thousands of people find their authentic selves and enjoy a more fulfilling relationship. Her approach is unique, and her style is warmly engaging, putting her clients and workshop attendees at ease. Her credentials include an M.A. in Counseling Psychology and a PhD in Clinical Sexology and she’s a Board Certified Clinical Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology. She’s also a professor at USF where she teaches graduate students about Sexology. Her book, Erotic Integrity: How to be True to Yourself Sexually was published last year by She Writes Press.

In Erotic Integrity, Dr. Claudia Six leads readers through ten sexual themes including garden-variety performance anxiety, sexual boredom, newly dating, coming out, and more and reveals three simple steps to a more rewarding sex life: knowing who you truly are as a sexual being, embracing that knowledge, and living it authentically.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How you define sexual performance anxiety
  • The different ways it manifests between men and women
  • How it can take women longer to get turned on
  • The feelings of being broken or defective that can occur through this issue
  • The impact pornography can have on bad education around sex
  • Having open communication in your relationship to deal with sexual performance anxiety
  • How the win or lose mentality can affect men
  • Knowing when it’s time to seek professional help with this issue


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Sep 12, 2017

Welcome to episode 36 of the Sexology Podcast with your host Dr. Nazanin Moali. In this episode, Dr. Moali talks about the important topic of psychological growth following experiencing sexual assault or rape. Furthermore, she discusses how sexual trauma may produce positive growth for individuals in various areas of their lives including their ability to relate to others, their general appreciation of life, and their ability to see new possibilities and changes in their spiritual life. 


In this episode, you will hear:


  • How people overcome adversity after sexual assault
  • Why people can view themselves as a survivor rather than a victim
  • Changing relationships; needing others for support
  • Renewing one’s purpose in life and becoming more spiritual
  • Redefining perspective with mindfulness practices
  • How growth is a gradual process
  • Cultivating post-traumatic growth through support
  • The importance of honouring your own journey


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Sep 5, 2017

Welcome to episode 35 of sexology podcast. Today I’m joined by Wendly Maltz LCSW, who shares with us the steps one can take to rediscover the joy of sexual intimacy after experiencing sexual assault. 

Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns. She authored a number of highly acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies, and The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography.

Wendy compiled and edited two best-selling poetry collections that celebrate healthy sexual intimacy, Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure. Her popular educational website,, provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, couples sexual healing videos, and more to help people recover from sexual abuse, overcome sexual problems, and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.

An experienced public speaker, workshop trainer and keynote presenter, Wendy has lectured in many major cities in the U.S., plus in Canada and New Zealand. Her presentation style is described as “warm and friendly,” “professional,” “information rich,” and “accessible.” Having worked in the field of sexuality for over three decades, Wendy knows how to put her audiences at ease on the subject.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The common myths that exist around sexual assault
  • How people can blame themselves for something they didn’t have control over
  • The issue and complications around consent
  • How being sexually assaulted can affect a person’s outlook on sex
  • Common sexual challenges that survivors face
  • Ways in which you can support a partner who’s been sexually assaulted
  • Discovering when you are ready to go on the sexual healing journey
  • How it’s possible to still enjoy sex after being assaulted



Aug 29, 2017

Welcome to episode 34 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Janet Brito who speaks to me about mind body approach; what it is and how it can be used, the benefits of tapping into mindfulness and how a healthy and balanced diet can help with sexual health.


Janet Brito is a licensed clinical psychologist, and licensed clinical social worker in Hawaii. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist and a Graduate of the Fellowship Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training.


Currently, she is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, gender and sexual identity concerns, out of control sexual behaviour, non-traditional relationships, holistic sexual health approaches, and infertility.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • Mind body approach; what it is and how it can be used
  • The research that has been conducted into the efficacy of holistic medicine
  • The benefits of tapping into mindfulness to help with this issue
  • Societal messages people receive that can lead to shame
  • The narrative of our story and how that can lead to sexual challenges
  • Being the author of your own story and owning it
  • Ways in which alternative medicine practices can help increase sexual activity and intimacy
  • How a healthy and balanced diet can help with sexual health




Aug 22, 2017

Welcome to episode 33 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Bonet who speaks to me about sexual jealously, the impact mistrust can have on a relationship and the differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous.

Shortly after earning her PhD in 1998, Dr. Bonet left the field of psychology to pursue a technical career. She worked in tech for many years doing project management and launching the first website to do online trading of international securities. She then left that field to be a stay at home mom and entrepreneur, growing her prenatal yoga business into an award winning company. 

She has been a yoga teacher for over 15 years and was the founder of the award winning Yogafairy Prenatal Yoga. She won The 2014 Top 100 Leading Moms in Business award, grew an international community of mothers, and ran the company for close to 15 years before selling the company in May of 2016 to focus on her private practice.

Dr. Bonet returned to the field of psychology in 2008. She opened her own private practice located in the Ft. Lauderdale/Broward County area in Hollywood, Florida in 2010. As a certified Hypnotherapist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Bonet helps people feel more emotionally stable, happier and more connected to their partner, friends, and loved ones of their choosing. Specialties are hypnosis for anxiety reduction and chronic conditions, couples counseling (Gottman Level 1 certified) and Perinatal MoodDisorders (PSI certified).

Dr. Bonet also recently launched her podcast, Hypnotize Me, in December 2016 which has over 20,000 downloads and is listened to in over 70 countries. Hypnotize Me is about hypnosis, transformation, and healing.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How sexual jealously is natural
  • The evolutionary purpose of jealousy
  • How jealously can manifest itself in relationships
  • The way jealously affects polyamorous and monogamous relationships differently
  • The impact mistrust can have on a relationship
  • Why jealously and competiveness can be similar but are distinctly different
  • The differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous
  • Is it possibly to get rid of these feelings of jealousy?
  • How hypnosis can be used around this issue
  • Being comfortable with yourself and your own feelings



Aug 15, 2017

Welcome to episode 32 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D. is joined by relationship-counselor, Dalila Jusic-LaBerge LMFT who helps women find peace and happiness after divorce and separation. During this interview, we examine steps that one would need to take before re-entering the dating scene and the keys to having great sex after divorce.


Dalila Jusic-LaBerge is the owner of Be Here & Now Counseling. She helps women and teenage girls heal from trauma and emotional wounding so that they can enjoy life and love. Dalila specializes in working with accomplished professional women who yearn for love but feel lost in romantic relationships. Utilizing mindfulness and mind-body oriented modalities, she helps them heal, connect to their own emotions, develop intuition, while readying them for connections on deeper emotional levels. This empowers women to be authentic and in touch with who they truly are. Dalila focuses on helping her clients manage difficult feelings and emotions that come with stress, anxiety irritability, and anger, all of which can prevent them from enjoying their lives and engaging in gratifying relationships. Dalila provides services online and sees clients in her Agoura Hills and Westlake Village offices.



In this episode, you will hear about:


  • The challenges that people face when they decide to reclaim their sex life after divorce
  • The pros and cons of continuing sexual relations with your ex-partner
  • The duration to wait before having sex
  • The signs of emotional readiness for intimacy with a new partner
  • The approaches in communicating your desires and turn-ons with your new lover


For a very limited time period, Dr. Nazanin Moali offers reduced fee appointments for sexology podcast listeners who are interested to explore their sexuality. To book an in person or online counselling appointment, please call (833) 376-5254.




Aug 8, 2017

Welcome to episode 31 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, we discuss various components of the arousal template and explore the origin of our erotic yearnings and desires.

In this episode, you will hear about:

  • The benefits of knowing your arousal type.
  • The erotic core template and its changes throughout your life.
  • The distinctive love-map that is unique to each of us.
  • The concept of love-map as designed by sex researcher John Money.
  • The importance of identifying your eroticized feelings as core component of arousal template.

The integration of your fantasies as a way to develop a deeper understanding of your psyche.

Contact Dr. Moali’s office (833) 376-6254 to book an online or in person appointment. Dr. Moali offers limited reduced fee appointments for sex therapy until the end of September as an attempt to meet AASECT certification criteria. 



Aug 1, 2017

Welcome to episode 30 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Lanae St. John. In this episode, we discussed why it’s important to talk to teens about sex and the importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens.

Lanae St. John, DHS, ACS, is board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • How Lanae became interested in child adolescent sexuality
  • Why it’s important to talk to teens about sex
  • How it’s not always sufficient just to rely on schools for sex education
  • The need for clarity and correct information in sex education
  • Ways in which parents can discuss consent with their teens
  • How parents can help facilitate the coming out process for homosexual teens
  • The importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens
  • How parents support their teens if they are engaging in risky sexual behaviour
  • The importance for teens to not fear the reactions of their parents when discussing these issues



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Jul 24, 2017

Welcome to episode 29 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Deborah Tolman who speaks to me about her research on adolescent sexuality, the double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality and recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges.


Deborah L. Tolman is a developmental psychologist and the co-founder of SPARK: Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge. She is the author of Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality, which was awarded the 2003 Distinguished Book Award from the Association for Women in Psychology. Deborah received her Ed.D from Harvard University in 1992. She is also the former director of the Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, and professor of human sexuality studies at San Francisco State University. Before relocating to San Francisco, she was a senior research scientist and the director of the Gender and Sexuality Project at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College.


Deborah is currently a professor of social welfare and psychology at the Hunter College School of Social Work and the Graduate Center of CUNY. Her research on adolescent sexuality, gender development, gender equity and research methods has been funded by grants from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, the Department of Health and Human Services, the Ford Foundation, and the Spencer Foundation.


In October 2010, Deborah co-founded SPARK (Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge), an intergenerational "girl-fueled" movement building organization (with Lyn Mikel Brown) dedicated to challenging the sexualization of girls by engaging girls to be activists and working with partner organizations around the country. SPARK links academia to activism and demonstrates an alternative to the divisive "wave metaphor" regarding feminism.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • Details on her research on adolescent sexuality
  • The importance of differentiating teens and young adults in the research
  • How the results and language terminology differ between teens and young adults
  • The pressures teen girls and young women face around slut shaming
  • The double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality
  • How young women and teens are pressuring themselves to achieve “the perfect image”  
  • The negative connotations that exist when trying to open up feelings around sexuality
  • The implications eating disorders can have on self-image and sexuality
  • Recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges



Jul 18, 2017

Welcome to episode 28 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about how she became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships, how a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex and the underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures.


Dana Nelson is an American psychologist and psychotherapist, originally from Northern Virginia, who now lives and practices in Lyon, France. She completed her masters degree and PhD in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University, and worked for a number of years in community mental health as well as university counselling center settings prior to moving to France in 2014. While in graduate school in rural central Pennsylvania (one of the least likely place to meet a Frenchman, you would think!), Dana met her current partner, a French international student working on his PhD in engineering at that time. After 3 years together in the US, they both graduated, and he moved back to France for a job. Then, after 2 years of being in a super long-distance relationship from Pennsylvania to France, Dana decided to embark on her first-ever experience of living abroad and moved to France to join him. They now live together in Lyon, and Dana opened her private practice there last year, where she works with English-speaking expats, intercultural couples, international students, and others living abroad. Dana's most recent adventure has been starting a podcast of her own, called Mindful Expat, which focuses on issues of emotional wellbeing and resilience for expats, intercultural couples, and others living abroad. 



In this episode, you will hear:


  • How Dana became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships
  • The underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures
  • How modern technology has allowed us to have relationships with people all over the world
  • Sexual experiences; how inter-cultural couples rate their experiences compared to couples of the same culture
  • The need for honest and open communication when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • How a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex
  • Learning to be respectful and understanding of a person’s cultural background when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • The importance of seeing things from your partners perspective
  • Seeing and understanding your partner as their true authentic selves



Jul 11, 2017

Welcome to episode 27 of the Sexology Podcast, in the run up to the release of season 7 of Game of Thrones, my guest today is Tamara Powell, LMHC who speaks to me about why as sex therapist she thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows, the attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in the show and why we are fascinated with sexual war.


Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.


Most recently, she launched her own podcast Undressing The Spirit, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.

 In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why Tamara thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows
  • How it reminds her of Nancy Friday’s seminal work in the 70’s & 80’s
  • The attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in Game of Thrones
  • Why we are fascinated with sexual war
  • How the show can give you ideas for your own fantasies with your partner
  • Misconceptions about why Game of Thrones is sexually appealing
  • Why the forbidden is attracting and exciting
  • How people are too quick to relate the show to pornography
  • The way women’s sexual desires are represented through characters such as Daenerys Targaryen
  • The sexual power dynamics that exist in the show

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