Welcome to episode 04 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Wade. Lisa is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. In this conversation, Lisa talks in-depth about the history of hook up culture, its impact on sexual attitudes and relationships, motivations behind the culture and its long-term effects.

She is currently on leave and living in New Orleans, the place she calls home. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara. 

Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.

In this episode, you will hear:

• How hook up culture is not an option but an imperative on college campuses
• The hierarchical structure, motivations being related to status
• How the structure is related more to heterosexual sex
• Differences between the genders around hook up culture
• How hook up culture satisfies male needs more than females needs
• The evolution that’s happening around the culture in the USA
• The history of college rioting, resulting in the first social fraternity being founded in Schenectady, New York in 1825.
• The cultural impact of the movie “Animal House”
• How raising the drinking age from 18 to 21 gave more power to fraternity’s
• The development of cities and their impact on a changing culture around sex
• The dynamical differences of hook up culture for young people not in college
• Long-term effects of hook up culture on attitudes towards sex and relationships

Resources

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup

https://lisa-wade.com

email: lwade@oxy.edu

Sexology Podcast EP03 – Tamara Powell

Welcome to episode 03 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Tamara Powell, LMHC. Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. More recently, she founded Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.

Tamara tends not to believe in limitations or pathology, only what she calls the “nearsightedness of that comes from either not knowing better OR creative, yet maladaptive attempts to get one’s needs met.” Her goal is to assist individuals and couples in tackling all of life’s challenges, whether mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Tamara’s experience working with sexually diverse clients
• The definition of a polyamorous relationship
• Who chooses polyamory and why
• The misconceptions behind polyamorous relationships
• How people transition from monogamist relationships
• Working against the taboo and how people are concerned to ask questions
• The religious and cultural connections to polyamory
• The difference between polyamory, polygamy and swinging
• Raising children in polyamorous relationships
• How children can benefit because they have more resources
• The strengths of polyamory
• How to deal with jealousy

Resources

Tamara's websites:

https://aryatherapy.com

https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast)

https://talesfromatrapezoid.com

Love in Abundance : A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships (Book) -

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Abundance-Counselors-Relationships-Paperback/dp/B01FYKSULG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485030260&sr=8-1&keywords=love+in+abundance

Welcome to episode 02 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Heather Seguin, who is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. She help couples and individuals create lives that reflect their deepest values and priorities. We all need someone to talk to now and then, especially when life gets messy. She often meets with people who feel stuck in life. Maybe you want to communicate better with your significant other, but you find yourself repeating the same old argument. Perhaps you struggle with self-confidence and it's keeping you from advancing at work. She will help you work through the things that are getting in your way so that you can have the life and relationships you want.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Different patterns that show how affairs can start
• The difference between affairs and sex addictions
• Similarities between sex additions and other addictions, E.G; Gambling, Drinking
• Feeling shame and not having control on behaviour
• How not all affairs are sexual
• Coping with the trauma of discovering an affair or sex addiction
• Digging deeper into a partners 3rd party sexual relationships
• Rebuilding trust if you stay in the relationship
• The impact on sexual confidence and reclaiming your sexual life
• Working with a sex therapist to overcome the issues
• Deepening the relationship after overcoming an affair or sex addiction

Resources

http://clearchoicecounseling.com

https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Addiction-Katehakis-Alexandra/dp/B0157JJFY0/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484591699&sr=1-2&keywords=erotic+intelligence

Welcome to episode 01 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr Albert Wong. Dr Albert Wong is Marshall Scholar educated at Princeton and Oxford and has received extensive training in couple’s therapy from some of the nation’s leading relationship experts.

In the 1990s, he served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years and has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and the book The American Soul Rush. His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He recently presented a workshop at the International Conference of the Association for the Advancement of Gestalt Therapy entitled Many Dances, One Rhythm: A Somatic Exploration of Gestalt-Based Movement Practices.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Listening with “the full being” and “the full body”
• The effects of mindfulness training and body awareness
• Living in the present moment
• Creating a safety net with a partner by learning to accept situations
• How the goal of mindfulness is to let go of goals
• Being more mindful whilst intimate
• Creating awareness with your partner, eye gazing
• Creating open minded communication
• Planning sex with your partner
• Dealing with shame and negative emotions
• Viewing shame as part of the experience
• How sex is a whole-body experience
• Reaching out to people we feel safe with when dealing with shame

Resources

http://www.dralbertwong.com

Phone - 415.545.8899