Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom!
Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.
Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).
Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.
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Resources
http://seattlecouplescounselor.com/sex-quiz/
https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Paul-Joannides-Psy-D/dp/1885535457
Welcome to episode 24 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Carmen Roman, who speaks to me about she got into the line of work of celibacy, how people live without sex and the unintended consequences of not being sexual.
Dr Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and 5+ years in California. She is known for her ability to create a safe place to help you to explore your deepest feelings and tap into your inner wisdom or get resources to cope with emotional trauma. Using Gestalt Therapy and transpersonal psychology, she will support you to live with awareness and responsibility to create the transformation you are longing for.
Her clients are psychologists, counselors, religious leaders, and people in the entertainment industry. Based on Gestalt therapy she helps clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and paranormal experiences.
She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master’s and PhD levels. All those credentials are a toolbox to her as she tailors them to your needs. She uses the science of psychology as needed in every case. Her focus is your transformation and the improvement in your relationships.
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Welcome to episode 23 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., who speaks to me about how the internet has impacted our sex lives, defining compulsivity in relation to pornography and how social media can hinder our real life social skills.
Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., is a Professor and Program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She received her master’s in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University Calumet and her doctorate in human development with a specialization in marriage and family therapy from Virginia Tech. She is a globally recognized researcher studying sexuality, technology, and its effects on couples. As she examines the role of technology in couple and family life, Hertlein has developed the first multi-theoretical model on this issue.
In addition to technology and relationships, Hertlein’s other areas of expertise include infidelity, sexuality, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Approved Supervisor, and a PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Counselor.
Hertlein has co-authored 8 books, including Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, The Therapist’s Notebook for Family Healthcare, Handbook for the Treatment of Infidelity, Systemic Sex Therapy, and A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, the last revision of which won the 2017 AASECT Book Award. She has published more than 60 articles in the notable journals in her field, contributed over 40 chapters to books, and serves on the editorial boards for several academic journals. She was recently appointed as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy.
Hertlein has also won several awards for her teaching, mentorship, and work in the field of sexuality research, including the Integrated Approaches to Sex Therapy Award through AASECT.
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Resources
https://www.unlv.edu/news/expert/katherine-m-hertlein
https://www.amazon.com/Systemic-Sex-Therapy-Katherine-Hertlein/dp/0415738245
Welcome to episode 22 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Joe Zarate-Sanderlin. In this episode, we talk about the psychology behind sexual fetishes.
Joe ZaRAte-SANderlin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist seeing clients in private practice in San Francisco, California. He has been active in the open relationship and BDSM communities in New York, Boston, and San Francisco for nearly 20 years. He earned his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Montecito, California. Pacifica highlights the need for therapists to do their own inner work. As a part of this, Joe has examined the role of the unconscious dark side of the personality, often called The Shadow, in his own life and in the lives of his clients.
As a part of his training as a therapist, he worked under the supervision of Dossie Easton, co-author of The Ethical Slut, The Topping Book, and The Bottoming Book. For two and half years, he primarily saw clients in open relationships and BDSM relationships under Dossie’s guidance. In addition to working with Dossie, Joe was a counselor in a Catholic elementary school for three years and he volunteered at a low-few non-profit therapy clinic in San Francisco for four years.
His interest in alternative sexuality includes helping normalize some activities that can carry a stigma while recognizing that those activities can sometimes become disordered and cause stress. He has focused on unpacking the shame that many people feel regarding their sexuality. He is also interested in the historical and cultural aspects of relationships and sexuality and he is passionate about challenging the bias toward hetero- and mono- normative relationships and toward binary views of gender.
Since he became licensed in 2013, he has continues his focus on working with clients in the LGBT, open relationship, and BDSM communities. He is a member of both Gaylesta and Bay Area Open Minds, two San Francisco Bay Area based organizations that promote and support therapists working with LGBT, open relationship, BDSM, and alternative sexuality communities. He was recently named to the Bay Area Open Minds board as social coordinator.
Joe has conducted trainings for other therapists on couples therapy, BDSM, open relationships, and talking to clients about about sex as well as guest lectured about couples therapy on the master’s level. He is in the early stages of writing a book about the role of attachment in open relationships.
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