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Sexology podcast untangles the science of sex and pleasure. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.
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Dec 25, 2018

Welcome to episode 103 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Laurie Betito about female sexual desires. In this episode, we discuss factors that may lead a woman to lose her sexual desire and the steps she must take to improve her intimate relationships.

 

Dr. Laurie is a clinical psychologist with a specialty in sex therapy, and has been a practicing psychotherapist for close to 30 years. For the last 27 years she has been doing radio and television, dispensing sex and relationship advice.  She is a regular contributor to various magazines, newspapers and television shows. She is the host of a nightly Canadian syndicated call in show called Passion, where she discusses issues related to sexuality with her listeners.
Dr. Laurie is also President of the Sexual Health Network of Quebec  and Past President of the Canadian Sex Research Forum.

 

Dr. Laurie is the author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50. She is also the Director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center, an online sexual health information platform.

 

Dr. Laurie has also done two TEDx talks on the subject of sexuality

 

In this episode, you will hear: 

  • Common myths of female sexual desire
  • What causes some women to lose interest in sex?
  • Differences in men and women when it comes to sexual desire?
  • Human response cycle and new research on responsive model of desire
  • Approaches in cultivating sexual desires
  • Why some women fake orgasms?

 

Resources 

www.drlaurie.com

www.cjad.com

https://youtu.be/lnigGtrwAfs

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https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

Dec 18, 2018

Welcome to episode 102 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to give five tips to boost your sexual confidence.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Ways to improve yourself image and be comfortable with your own body  
  • Modifying your definition of great sex  
  • Improving your sexual techniques and practices 
  • Understanding the need for your own pleasure and knowing it’s ok to masturbate  
  • The important of exercise in relation to sex  

 

Resources 

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Dec 11, 2018

Welcome to episode 101 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Herman who speaks to me about common causes of sexual pain for women, the extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues and exercises women can do to help prevent injuries. 

 

Dr. Hollis Herman (Holly) has been a physical therapist for 43 years. Her passion is musculoskeletal function and dysfunction in Functional Health in the LGBT community and is Board Certified as an Orthopedic, Women’s Health, Biofeedback Specialist. Holly is an AASECT certified Sexuality Counselor and an ISSWSH Sexuality Fellow.  She has pioneered physical therapy evaluation and treatment of problems that involve urologic, colorectal, obstetric, gynecologic, reproductive and sexual medicine.  

 

She maintains a vibrant private practice, HealthyWomen HealthyMen HealthyPeople, in Cambridge, MA, seeing patients in addition to training thousands of health professionals in these areas of health worldwide. 

 

Holly has authored numerous books, book chapters and peer reviewed articles. She has received many grants and awards for her dedication and clinical excellence in physical therapy. Holly co-founded the Herman & Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute in 2005, though, no longer affiliated. Holly believes all patients deserve the right to be heard, validated, understood and educated in their specific musculoskeletal condition to live a healthy functionally active life. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Common causes of sexual pain for women  
  • Knowing when you need to seek medical attention for sexual issues  
  • The extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues  
  • The course of treatment and services people can expect from a physical therapist  
  • How long treatments usually last  
  • Exercises women can do to help prevent injuries  
  • Where to find a physical therapist right for you  
 

 

Resources 

https://hollyherman.com  

https://facebook.com/HWHMeducation  

http://www.apta.org 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Dec 4, 2018

Welcome to episode 100 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back our very first guest of the podcast; Dr. Albert Wong who speaks to me this time about the challenge’s men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom, how intimacy can be sexually arousing and steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles.

Dr. Albert Wong is an Associate Professor and Core Faculty in the Holistic Counseling Psychology Program at JFK University. A former Marshall Scholar, he has longstanding interests in the intersection of performance art, somatics, psychotherapy, and scalable technology.

He served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years. He has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and in the book The American Soul Rush.

His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He was educated at Princeton, Oxford, and the University of Tennessee and is the recipient of numerous national science awards (Westinghouse Science Talent Scholarship, Goldwater Scholarship).

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The challenges men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom
  • How sexual performance anxiety and feelings of not being enough are very prevalent with men
  • Understanding, knowing and having an intuition for you and your partner's desires
  • How intimacy can be sexually arousing
  • Working with and overcoming traumatic experiences
  • Understanding people have many different sexual templates
  • Steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles

Resources

http://www.dralbertwong.com 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care 

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Nov 27, 2018

Welcome to episode 99 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to talk about the relationship between sex and recreational drugs: alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, MDMA, amphetamines and hallucinogens.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The way in which alcohol affects your sexual experience  
  • How aggressive tendencies can be amplified when having sex under the influence of alcohol  
  • How alcohol and cannabis affect sex in very different ways  
  • How some women struggle to concentrate during sex after taking cannabis  
  • The way in which cocaine has a chronic prolonged effect 
  • Reports that suggest many people reach orgasm when coming down from MDMA 
  • The mixed responses people have reported from sex whilst taking amphetamines 
  • How hallucinogens have been known to help with sexual fantasies  
 

 

Resources 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172 

 

Hingson, R. W., Zha, W., & Weitzman, E. R. (2009). Magnitude of and trends in alcohol-related mortality and morbidity among U.S. college students ages 18–24, 1998–2005. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, s16, 12–20. 

 

Kerr, D. C., Washburn, I. J., Morris, M. K., Lewis, K. A., & Tiberio, S. S. (2015). Event-level associations of marijuana and heavy alcohol use with intercourse and condom use. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, 76, 733–737. 

 

Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172. 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 20, 2018

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.  

 

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible. 

 

Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender  
  • The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck  
  • The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner  
  • Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them  
  • How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship  
  • How much disclosure is useful around the information of sex? 
  • Recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck   

 

Resources 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/26/rebuilding-sexual-intimacy-after-sexual-betrayal/ 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Nov 13, 2018

Welcome to episode 97 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller who talks to us about sexual fantasies, the influence culture has in this area and understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire.  

 

Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.  

 

Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011, and it now receives several million page views per year. He has been interviewed by numerous media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, CNN.com, The Atlantic, The Globe and Mail, and The Sunday Times. He has been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. Dr. Lehmiller has appeared on several episodes of the television program Taboo on the National Geographic Channel and has been a guest on numerous podcast and radio shows, including the Savage Lovecast and the NPR programs Radio Times and Airtalk. He is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for major publications, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Psychology Today, Politico, and New York Magazine. In addition, the articles he writes on Sex and Psychology have been syndicated on major websites, including Business Insider, Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Thought Catalog. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Findings about sexual fantasies Justin’s found from a recent survey  
  • The similar sexual themes that emerged across various age groups  
  • The influence culture has on sexual fantasy  
  • How political leanings can influence sexual fantasy  
  • Understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire  
  • Creating emotional safety around fantasies  
  • Learning to communicate with your partner to please each other’s fantasies  

 

Resources 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 6, 2018

Welcome to episode 96 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Melissa Novak who speaks to us about the underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety, the way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue and learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs. 

 

Melissa Novak a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Certified Sex Therapist, specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction, personality disorders as well as depression and anxiety-related disorders.  She specializes in working with adults, and couples on a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, OCD, and PTSD. Melissa has a particular interest in working with those struggling with sexual dysfunction and those concerned about some aspect of their sexual behavior.  

 

In addition to providing individual therapy, Melissa serves as an educator and supervisor within the Chicagoland community and currently teaches as an adjunct professor at the University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration.  She serves as Secretary for the Board of Directors of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). 

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety such as self-doubt 
  • How many people are using uncertified online resources to try and overcome this issue 
  • The way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue  
  • How there is too much pressure on penis size to be the only source of pleasure  
  • How rejection can play a big role around this issue  
  • Learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs 
  • What treatment looks like for sexual performance anxiety  
 

 

 

Resources 

http://www.mntherapies.com 

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 30, 2018

Welcome to episode 95 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Jordan Rawlins and F.C Brandt who speak to me about their new book E Is For Erotica, the exploration of open and non-monogamous relationships and how our relationships are continually evolving.  

 

Jordan Rawlins is a Southern California native who made a living as a poker player, stuntman, actor and trained as a magician, before finding his place as a writer. His children's movie, “Rescue Dogs,” opened in theaters nationwide in 2016. He was a semi-finalist for the 2018 Academy Nicholl Fellowship. On the digital front, he has worked with Maker Studios and Defy Studios on various projects. In 2018 he worked with WBTV and Amore and Vita on a new half-hour series. A playwright, his stage plays have been seen in theaters across America and in London. He has numerous projects for the big and small screen in various stages of development. He is the author of the novel "Monsters of the Apocalypse" and the comedy Alphabet book, "E is for Erotica." His free time is spent fly-fishing, volunteering with his favorite charities, and getting yelled at by two demanding cats. 

 

F.C Brandt is a storyboard artist, documentary filmmaker, and a cartoonist. He’s responsible for the comic book documentary Comic Book Independents, has been a storyboard artist for commercials and feature films and has been working on his own personal project A Hero A Day for the past several years. He recently launched his new book with his friend Jordan Rawlins, E is for Erotica. E is for Erotica is a Dr. Seuss like book for grown-ups that explores all aspects of sexuality using the alphabet as its guide.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why they made the book E is For Erotica  
  • The reasoning and thinking for not including gay terminology in the book  
  • How they made a conscious effort to represent a diverse mix of people  
  • The exploration of open and non-monogamous relationships  
  • The issue of jealousy in monogamous relationships 
  • The difficulty of communication with non-monogamous relationships 
  • How our relationships are continually evolving  

 

Resources 

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Oct 23, 2018
 

Welcome to episode 94 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Chanta Blue who speaks to us about what the life of a swinger entails, why she became interested in working with this community and is the stigma attached to swingers changing? 

 

Chanta Blue is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist and co-owner of Blue Counseling & Wellness Center in Montclair, NJ. She holds a B.A. in Psychology from Spelman College, a Master’s degree in Social Work from Rutgers University, and a Master’s of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. Chanta’s aim is to empower girls and women of color to clarify and create the career, relationships, sexuality, and overall lifestyle they desire.  

 

She specializes in issues related to anxiety, depression, self-esteem, body image and works with folks in various relationship styles including polyamory, swinging, kink, and traditional relationships. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does the swinger lifestyle entail?  
  • How people find ways to connect with other swingers  
  • Why Chanta became interested in working with this community  
  • How Chanta’s research showed a lack of people of colour in the swinger’s community  
  • Is swinging more popular for couples or singles? 
  • Where swinging meets polyamory  
  • The misconceptions around the swinger community  
  • Is the stigma attached to swingers changing? 

 

Resources 

https://www.bluewellnesscenter.com 

https://www.masakhanecenter.org  

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Oct 16, 2018

Welcome to episode 93 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT who speaks to me about common themes around coming out as transgender, the difference between gender identity and sexual identity and when is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?  

 

Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Florida, Transgender Care Certified Therapist, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, Florida Department of Children and Family approved Parenting Care Provider. She holds EU earned degrees M.A. in Psychology and Law, and PhDr. in Clinical Psychology. She recently finished her PhD. in Family Therapy at Nova Southeastern University, Fort Lauderdale. 

 

Eva was born in former Czechoslovakia so rebelling and craving for diversity and freedom are in her DNA. Eva worked in international business and got the opportunity to become familiar with many countries around the world. Before she moved to Florida, she became a resident in Austria.  Eva has been single all her life, yet lived with one partner for almost 20 years. She has a 12-year-old daughter and 32-year-old kind of step-son. She considers herself for gender and sexually; fluid. 

 

She is an expert on couples, marriage, intimacy, family systems, communication strategies and conflict resolutions, life guidance, gender, and sexual issues. She is a professional member of several national and international Family Therapy Associations, also organizations supporting and caring for LGBTQ population – PFLAG, GLSEN, World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), and a professional member of American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). She also regularly presents and publishes topics related to the field of family therapy and transgender care nationally and internationally. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Common themes around coming out as transgender  
  • The impact fear can have on the process of coming out  
  • Do many couples continue their relationship after one comes out as transgender?  
  • The difference between gender identity and sexual identity  
  • Dealing with the dynamic changes that happen through this process 
  • How couples have improved intimacy and sex through this process 
  • When is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?  

 

Resources 

http://www.psychotherapyswflorida.com 

+123 924 742 31  

dr.eva.smid@gmail.com 

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 9, 2018

Welcome to episode 92 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who speaks to us about jealousy, the need for open and understanding communication around this issue and steps couples can do to help manage jealousy.  

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Whose job is it to talk about and address jealousy?  
  • The need for open and understanding communication when it comes to jealousy  
  • Ways the offender of jealousy can reassure their partner  
  • Behaviours to look out for when you might be feeling jealous  
  • What couples can do to help overcome this issue  
  • Steps to take to reduce vulnerability  
  • How feelings of jealousy are normal and what we can do to manage these feelings  
  • Understanding jealousy is a complex issue which can take time to navigate  

 

Resources 

https://tuckmanpsych.com  

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-matters/201806/who-should-fix-jealousy 

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 2, 2018

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to us about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.  

 

Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.  

 

Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.  

 

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to me about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.   

  

  

  

Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.   

  

  

  

Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.   

  

  

  

In this episode, you will hear:   

  

  

  

What is somatic sexual healing?  

  

How Charlie integrates the sexological and somatical parts into his work   

  

Sex and intimacy; what Charlie is passionate about in helping people to navigate this area   

  

The experiential practices Charlie uses with his clients   

  

Understanding and knowing the boundaries with clients during sessions   

  

Sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens   

  

  

  

If you are experiencing strong emotions related to past or present trauma and you are looking for resources to get support, you can can visit RAINN’s online hotline (https://hotline.rainn.org/online/) or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-4673. 

  

  

  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What is somatic sexual healing? 
  • How Charlie integrates the sexological and somatical parts into his work  
  • Sex and intimacy; what Charlie is passionate about in helping people to navigate this area  
  • The experiential practices Charlie uses with his clients  
  • Understanding and knowing the boundaries with clients during sessions  
  • Sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens  

 

 

Resources 

https://twitter.com/charlieglickman  

https://www.facebook.com/charlie.glickman  

http://www.makesexeasy.com  

https://bettymartin.org  

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 25, 2018

Welcome to episode 90 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb who speaks to me about what adult age play entails, how shame and embarrassment surround this issue and how a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue.  

 

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. 

 

She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.  

 

Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality with all the wonderful unique flavors that come with it. Shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear are poisonous to healthy sexual expression so letting go of old, irrational and impractical belief patterns can pave the way for a new and exciting beginning.  

 

Her recent book, No More Hiding: Permission to Love your Sexual Self, is a guide for those seeking help with alternative sexuality such as BDSM, Kinks, fetishes and open relationships. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does adult age play entail? 
  • How shame and embarrassment surround this issue  
  • Understanding how and why the diaper fetish develops  
  • Knowing when will be best to approach your partner about this  
  • The different variations on how this manifests sexually  
  • How kink and BDSM behaviours can be connected   
  • How a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue  

 

Resources 

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 18, 2018

Welcome to episode 89 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about the issue of low desire and the steps you can take to improve your sex life even if you have low desire.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common factors that contribute to low libido 
  • Understanding whether your issue is more psychological or physiological  
  • How relationship issues affect low desire  
  • Understanding that sex is not perfect and that it’s ok not to be on your A-game every time you have sex 
  • Learning to create an erotic environment  
  • Communicating these issues as a couple and learning how to help each other 

 

Resources 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio  

Sep 11, 2018

Welcome to episode 88 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Steve Bodansky (he was a guest on episode 59) to the podcast, this time Steve speaks to me about his new book Love and Alzheimer’s, the changes that Steve and his wife Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s.  

 

Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Master’s in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.  

 

Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Welcomed Consensus where they taught for 5 years and certified 5 new students into becoming teachers and demonstrators of orgasm.  

 

For the past 22 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The changes that Steve and Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 
  • How Vera has maintained her sexuality through this process  
  • The dynamic changes that have happened to the relationship after the Alzheimer’s diagnostic  
  • How writing his new book Love and Alzheimer’s helped Steve through the changes  
  • The ways in which Steve and Vera have strengthened their connection despite the ongoing challenges 
  • Recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s  

 

Resources 

stevebodansky@gmail.com 

http://www.orgasmmatters.com  

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Alzheimers-Steve-Bodansky/dp/1546560823  

http://www.emotionsinharmony.com  

 

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Sep 4, 2018

Welcome to episode 87 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Sonalee Rashatwar who talks to us about the concept of sexual colonization and what it means, the ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body” and what we can do to create more body inclusive sex education.

 

Sonalee Rashatwar (she/they), MSW, LCSW, MEd is an award-winning social worker, sex therapist, adjunct lecturer, and grassroots organizer. Based in Philly, she is a fat queer nonbinary therapist working as a sexual violence crisis counselor, specializing in treating sexual trauma, body image issues, racial or immigrant identity issues, and South Asian family systems, while offering fat and body positive sexual healthcare.

 

Popularly known as TheFatSexTherapist on Instagram, their fame hit an all time high when they were featured on Breitbart in March 2018 for naming thinness as a white supremacist beauty ideal. Sonalee is a sought-after speaker who travels nationally to curate custom visual workshops that whisper to our changemaking spirit and nourish our vision for a more just future.

 

Sonalee is not paid for her labor as a community organizer, where she has fundraised and facilitated a free 5-day political action summer camp for LGBT+ South Asian and Indo Caribbean youth. Sonalee received their Master of Social Work and Master of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University in 2016 and have been working in the field of anti-violence for 7+ years.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

The concept of sexual colonization and what it means

How many different voices and people of different backgrounds haven’t been represented in research

The ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body”

How many people are mis-informed around these issues and what we think should help people, often makes things worse

Recommendations for changing your internal dialogue

What we can do to create more body inclusive sex education

Understanding and knowing your biases around diet culture

 

 

Resources

https://www.sonaleer.com

https://www.instagram.com/thefatsextherapist

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Aug 28, 2018

Welcome to episode 86 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about a listener’s email around the subject of masturbation and why her husband still feels the need to masturbate whilst in a marriage.   

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How wanting to have separate fantasies away from the relationship can lead to more masturbation  
  • The stigma around this issue, studies have shown very few women know their partners masturbate frequently  
  • Why sexual boredom can increase masturbation frequency  
  • How masturbation can be used as a self-regulator for relief  
  • Understanding that this is a very common issue, but there is currently limited studies and data to know more  
  • Steps that can be taken to address this issue  

 

Resources 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Aug 21, 2018

Welcome to episode 85 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, we are joined by Midori who talks to us about how she began her journey into sex education, learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually and recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom. 

 

Midori is a renowned sexuality educator, author, and artist based in San Francisco. She emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought-after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfilment, and kinky adventures. 

 

Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills but in her ability to deconstruct and distil complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice. Native of Tokyo, Japan, she brings a unique perspective to creative self-expression, pleasure and authentic living. 

 

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of " The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage", the first English language book on Shibari. She also wrote hot instructional essays in "Wild Side Sex", and the darkly erotic science fiction, "Master Han's Daughter".  

 

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Passionate Bonds: Creating Effective D/s Protocol. When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Madori began her journey into sex education  
  • Why bondage isn’t necessarily a form of art  
  • The need to enjoy your sex life and live in the moment of it  
  • The way in which movies, books and other forms of media can warp our view of the reality of sex  
  • Learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually  
  • Stripping away the stigma and falsehood that the majority of people don’t practice BDSM  
  • Understanding the pain aspect of BDSM  
  • Recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom  
 

 

Resources 

Ted X Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jXiekEoMrvI  

Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Aug 14, 2018
Welcome to episode 84 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Timothy Wienecke who talks to us about the way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service, how masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways and the importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues.
 
Timothy Wienecke has spent the last decade training and educating in a variety of settings on a broad range of topics. He got started as a primary trainer for various technical positions as a Signals Analyst working with the NSA. That is where he realized he enjoys giving people the skills and knowledge they need to be effective in the places that are important to them. Timothy's command noticed his passion and tapped him for a more delicate and difficult task to be a primary trainer for the Air Force’s Bystander Intervention program. There he spent the next three years training over 3000 Airmen how to notice and engage effectively to stop harassment and sexual assault before it happens. In recognition of his efforts, Timothy earned many accolades, ranging from Airman of the Quarter to Early Promotion and an Air Force Achievement Medal for impact. The enjoyment of these tasks is what led him to leave the Air Force and enter the mental health and advocacy fields full time.
 
After leaving the military, Timothy became employed as a peer educator for the Auraria Campus and the facilitator to launch Colorado University at Denver’s Peer Advocates for Veteran Education program. He took the skills gained in the military and learned how to connect with traditional college students, university staff, and the business community. Timothy taught and developed curriculum for time management, communication skills, gender dynamics, bystander intervention, cross-cultural communication, military culture, and many other topics over his three years in those positions. Again, people took note of Timothy's passion, skill, and effort; naming him the Feminist Ally of the Year, awarded a Life Time Achievement Award by the Phoenix Center at Auraria, and he left campus as the Outstanding Graduate of the CU Counseling program.
 
Since leaving the Auraria campus, Timothy has jumped into the greater Denver community to continue empowering people with the skills, knowledge, and drive to move themselves and their organizations toward their goals. He has trained Fire Fighters how to maintain focus and cope with the trauma they see in the world, taught clinicians the knowledge needed to serve men and the veteran community, and helped corporate employees focus in and communicate to complete their goals as a team.
 
In this episode, you will hear:
 
  • The way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service
  • How masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways
  • The difference between the way civilians and people in the military experience trauma and sexual abuse
  • The differences males and females experience sexual abuse and trauma
  • How men can be more vulnerable when it comes to sexual abuse and trauma
  • The importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues
 
Resources
https://empoweredchangece.com
 
Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY
 
https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care
https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care
https://twitter.com/oasis2care
Aug 7, 2018

Welcome to episode 83 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. who talks to us about the common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery, the difference between healthy sex and addictive sex and incorporating your values into your sexuality.  

 

Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and the recipient of the 2018 IITAP Leadership and 2012 Carnes Award. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist/Supervisor and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist/Supervisor specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction and other sexual disorders.  

 

Dr. Katehakis is author of Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan (2018), Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (2016), co-author of the 2015 AASECT award-winning Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence (2104), contributing author to the Clark Vincent award-winning Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts, in M. Feree (Ed.) (2012), and author of Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex After Recovery From Sex Addiction (2010). 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery  
  • Why Alexandra encourages people to explore their sexuality after recovery  
  • The difference between healthy sex and addictive sex  
  • How sex addiction is often a re-enactment of trauma  
  • Incorporating your values into your sexuality  
  • Understanding your sexual template  
  • How Alexandra helps people create a sexual health plan  
  • Creating a sexual framework that both partners can be happy with  
  • Understanding the connection between your body and mind through recovery 

 

 

 

Resources 

http://centerforhealthysex.com  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Jul 31, 2018

Welcome to episode 82 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Christine Macinnis who speaks to me about she became interested in working with transgender people, the best ways and practices we can all support transgender people and the issues they face when coming out. 

 

Due to over 20 years working in local schools as a school counselor, Christine brings a unique perspective to her work in private practice. She loves assisting the adolescent through the trials of depression, anxiety, school and learning issues, gender and sexual identity confusion, and the adjustment to college and launching from their family.  

 

In addition to her work with teenagers, Christine has a passion for the challenges and celebration of sexual and gender identity for all age groups. As a Certified LGBT-Affirmative Psychotherapy Provider, she has supported several transgender clients and families as they progress through the process of transition and acceptance. In terms of support outside of our sessions, Christine can be a strong educational advocate for her client's needs and is well versed in the IEP/504 plan process to support students academically. She is also an expert in college and career planning for teens. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Christine became interested in working with transgender people 
  • The way in which transgender people experience an additional layer of stigma  
  • How therapist’s biases can play into people’s processes of sexual orientation  
  • Supporting parents in understanding difference between their child being curious or aligning with gender identity  
  • The best ways and practices we can all support transgender people  
  • How unfortunately transgender people have the highest rates of suicide and self-medication  
  • The issues transgender people face when coming out  
  • The need to question and overcome societal biases against transgender people  

 

Resources 

Phone – 1310 683 9047  

Email – macinnis.christine@gmail.com  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Jul 24, 2018

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to share some personal and revealing stories about my own experience with sex therapists.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How difficulties with sex affected a previous relationship  
  • The ways in which this led to seeking out sex therapy  
  • The difference between sex therapy, sex educator, sex surrogate and sex coaches  
  • How our educational systems lack good information on sex  
  • The need for patients to understand what it is they want to work on  
  • Understanding what can get in the way psychologically to stop you experiencing pleasure  
  • How it’s ok to receive sex therapy as a couple or on your own  
  • Knowing how to choose the right sex therapist for you  

 

Resources 

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

https://oasis2care.com/torrance/find-right-therapist-los-angeles-ca/ 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Jul 17, 2018

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who joined me on episode 79. In this episode, we talk about the fidelity agreement, how technology is changing our fidelity agreement and what gets in the way of having these conversations? 

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What is a fidelity agreement? 
  • How what is considered cheating for some couples, isn’t for others  
  • The need for independence on your thoughts and desires  
  • How is technology evolving our fidelity agreement? 
  • Making a sustainable agreement between you and your partner about what is and isn’t ok  
  • Understanding that sexual desires change and evolve over time  
  • What gets in the way of having these conversations? 

 

Resources 

https://tuckmanpsych.com  

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/sex-matters  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

Jul 10, 2018

Welcome to episode 79 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Ari Tuckman who talks to us about Teledildonics, the common ways people use this technology and what the future will hold as this technology continues to grow.  

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does Teledildonic mean? 
  • The huge variety of technology for remote sex where tactile sensations that’s now available  
  • How Teledildonics could help prevent cheating  
  • The common ways people use this technology  
  • Ways in which to incorporate Teledildonic to increase novelty into your relationship  
  • The off-shoot benefits Teledildonic can have  
  • How Teledildonic can help increase intimacy in long distance relationships 
  • The potential downsides of using this technology  
  • The future of Teledildonics and what we can expect to see 

 

Resources 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care 

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