Sexology

EP120 - How To Have Tough Conversations Around Sex 0

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Apr 23, 2019

Welcome to episode 120 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome Jonathan Miller to the podcast, in this episode he speaks about ways in which can start to have difficult conversations around sex, the importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually and understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partner's thoughts and emotions.

Jonathan helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.

He truly believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life, and communication is the main ingredient. Growing up, he was never taught to fully express himself or hear others in a way that fostered connection. He is now committed to sharing his newfound passion for clear communication using his world-class training methodology.

In this episode, you will hear:

Recommendations on what to talk about before having sex for the first time
The best time in a relationship to first talk about having sex
The importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually
Ways in which to talk about difficult sexual issues, such as having an STI
How to tell your partner that you slept with someone else
Understanding the need to take responsibility
How to first approach your partner about potentially opening up your relationship
An interactive role play between Nazanin and Jonathan dealing with these issues
Understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partners thoughts and emotions

Resources

www.mindfulcommunication.me

Bonus Episode: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/

EP119: The Hottest Sex Scenes on Game of Thrones and What You Can Learn from Them 0

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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Apr 16, 2019

Welcome to episode 119 of the Sexology Podcast. In the run up to season 8 of Game of Thrones, this week’s episode is a solo episode where I discuss the five hottest sex scenes from the show and what we can learn from.

In this episode, you will hear:

Why people associate Game of Thrones as a more sexually charged shows than other TV shows
Does the show give people a legitimacy to have taboo fantasies?
The top five categories of sexual fantasy
How physiological arousal doesn’t automatically correspond to your erotic template
How group sex / orgies are at the top of most people's sexual fantasy
Understanding the need to start slow when acting out role play with your partner
The importance of role play in a relationship to keep elements of danger and excitement
Understanding the attraction of a rape fantasy
The sexual power play dynamics Game of Thrones creates in its scenes
The role romance plays in a sexual fantasy
Understanding why the Jon Snow and Ygritte sex scene is the most popular

Resources

https://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/11/293/ EP27 - Sexuality in Game of Thrones

https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428

https://www.ledevoir.com/culture/ecrans/552035/grand-angle-le-trone-de-fer-c-est-nous#

EP118: Age Play Ideas with Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb 0

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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Apr 9, 2019

Welcome to episode 118 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. Dr. Rhoda was my guest on episode 90 talking about Age Play and she returns to talk further about this issue. In this episode Dr. Rhoda touches upon how we can incorporate Age Play into a relationship, the role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed and how seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful.

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL.

She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.

Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality with all the wonderful unique flavors that come with it. Shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear are poisonous to healthy sexual expression so letting go of old, irrational and impractical belief patterns can pave the way for a new and exciting beginning.

Her recent book, No More Hiding: Permission to Love your Sexual Self, is a guide for those seeking help with alternative sexuality such as BDSM, Kinks, fetishes and open relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:

What is Age Play?
How can we incorporate Age Play into a relationship?
The areas of discomfort a partner might experience
The role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed
How our erotic template is like our fingerprints / DNA
Is it possible to learn to enjoy Age Play if it’s not part of our template?
The starting points to being introduced to Age Play
Learning that Age Play is a component part of your sexuality and not the entire piece
How seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful

Resources

www.drrhoda.com

dr.rhoda@yahoo.com

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/25/age-play-dr-rhoda-lipscomb/

EP117 - How to Please Your Lover by Dr. Lonnie Barbach 0

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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Apr 2, 2019

Welcome to episode 117 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lonnie Barbach to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Lonnie speaks to me about how to please your lover, the barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs, the importance of compatibility and chemistry and restoring intimacy.

Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at the sex advisory and counseling unit at UCSF and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes. Her best known books include:

For Yourself, For Each Other, Pleasures, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cofounder of Happy Couple a relationship game app designed to enhance a couple’s communication and satisfaction.

In this episode, you will hear:

The barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs
How there is an expectation for us to be mind readers when it comes to sex
The way in which our sexual interests evolve over time
The importance of compatibility and chemistry
Maintaining a willingness to explore new things and keep things interesting
Making sure to create time for sex and not just when you’re tired
Can intimacy be restored if it’s been lost?
Understanding that it’s to create a schedule for sex
Being open your partners erotic template

Resources

https://www.lonniebarbach.com

http://www.happycouple.co/en/