Info

Sexology

Sexology podcast untangles the science of sex and pleasure. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.
RSS Feed
Sexology
2021
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February
January


2020
December
November
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February
January


2019
December
November
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February
January


2018
December
November
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February
January


2017
December
November
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February
January


Categories

All Episodes
Archives
Categories
Now displaying: Category: general, sexuality
Jul 23, 2019

Welcome to episode 133 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile dysfunction, the steps leading to a penile prosthesis and how the penile prosthesis works. 

 

Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD, is a specialist in complex surgical reconstruction of the male urinary tract, male urinary incontinence, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, urethral stricture disease, and Peyronie’s Disease. He joins the USC Institute of Urology after completing his urology residency at USC and further fellowship training in male genitourinary reconstructive and prosthetic surgery under Dr. Stuart Boyd, a world-renown reconstructive cancer surgeon and authority on reconstruction of the lower urinary tract and urologic prosthestics.  

  

Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Loh-Doyle completed his undergraduate and medical school education in the prestigious Baccalaureate/MD program at the Keck School of Medicine of USC, where he achieved degrees in biological sciences, international relations, and doctor of medicine. Dr. Loh-Doyle’s areas of clinical and research interest include erectile dysfunction, male urinary incontinence, Peyronie’s Disease, reconstruction of the urinary tract, and urologic oncology. In addition to urology, he also has a keen interest in health policy and quality improvement and participated in a two-year health care administration scholars program run by the Los Angeles County Department of Health. He was awarded a grant to improve the peri-operative patient experience at Los Angeles County+USC, and he is an active participant in several committees aimed at improving the delivery of sophisticated healthcare to the underserved. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile disfunction 
  • The steps leading to a penile prosthesis 
  • How there is a psychogenic component to erectile disfunctions  
  • Allaying the concerns about injecting into the penis  
  • How the penile prosthesis works  
  • The main candidates for this type of surgery  
  • The possible risk and side effects  
  • How common is it for people to have mechanical issues?  
  • The level of satisfaction after surgery  
  • How quickly people can resume sexual activity after surgery  

 

Resources 

https://keck.usc.edu/faculty-search/jeffrey-loh-doyle/  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

 

Jul 16, 2019

Welcome to episode 132 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m happy to welcome Dr. Natalie Rosen to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD), the impact of FSIAD on partners and understanding self-expansion and how it can help.  

Dr. Natalie Rosen is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research interests focus on understanding how individuals, and especially couples, cope with sexual problems or changes to their sexual relationship, including low sexual desire. She is an Associate Editor of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and has published over 70 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters on sexual relationships. Dr. Rosen’s research is currently funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, the Nova Scotia Health Research Foundation, the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada, and the Canadian Foundation of Innovation. Dr. Rosen also maintains a small private practice focused exclusively on sex and couple therapy.

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What is female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD)?  
  • The key part that distress plays in this issue  
  • Understanding that we all go through different periods of higher and lower desire  
  • How common is FSIAD?  
  • The impact of FSIAD on partners  
  • How does this differ between same sex / different sex couples?  
  • How sexual discrepancies exist between couples from the offset  
  • The way in which FSIAD effects communication between partners  
  • Recommendations for couples overcoming this issue   
  • Understanding self-expansion and how it can help  
 
 

 

Resources 

https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090   

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jul 9, 2019

Welcome to episode 131 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jes L. MatsickPh.D and Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about defining sexual orientation, addressing the challenges around minority distress and the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians. 

Jes Matsick, Ph.D.  

Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D. is an Assistant Professor of Psychology and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at The Pennsylvania State University. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology and Women’s Studies at the University of Michigan. In her research, she studies sexuality, gender, and prejudice, and much of her work is centered on the perspectives and experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) individuals. Dr. Matsick is the director of the Underrepresented Perspectives Lab at Penn State, where she trains undergraduate and graduate students to conduct psychological research with an emphasis on LGBTQ+ issues. Her lab uses social psychological and feminist theories and methodologies to examine contemporary social issues, such as heterosexism, bisexual prejudice, allyship, health disparities, and intergroup relations. Since 2010, she has published more than 25 scientific papers and book chapters in which she examines sexual diversity and the psychological experiences of adults with sexually stigmatized identities. In the classroom at Penn State, she teaches courses that draw on her expertise in sexuality, gender, and health (e.g., Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, Women’s Health Issues, Human Sexuality, and Psychology of Gender). Dr. Matsick’s research has been funded by the American Institute of Bisexuality, the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, and the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues. 

Anna C. Salomaa, M.S.  

Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. is in her final year as a doctoral candidate at The Pennsylvania State University in the Department of Psychology; her area of focus is clinical psychology. The overarching goal of her research is to translate mapping the complexities of sexuality to the improvement of sexual minority health. Her primary areas of expertise include (1) issues in measuring sexual orientation in clinical and research settings and (2) mechanisms behind and interventions against bisexual prejudice in lesbian, gay, and heterosexual individuals that contribute to health disparities in bisexual people. In 2019, she received the Pennsylvania Psychological Foundation’s Student Multicultural Award. Anna is also the recipient of the 2018 Bisexual Issues Committee Foundation Award by APA's Division 44 (Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity). Anna integrates her research focus into her clinical work with sexual and gender minority clients by facilitating nuanced identity development. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How they became interested in this area of research  
  • Addressing the challenges around minority distress  
  • How do they define sexual orientation?  
  • Measuring sexual orientation and asking the right questions for quality research  
  • The way in which our sexual orientation can change over our lifetime 
  • The fluidity of sexuality  
  • How Bi-Sexual people will experience social isolation  
  • How many people still view being Bi-Sexual as just a pre-cursor to becoming gay  
  • What are some of the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians? 
 
 

Resources 

https://psych.la.psu.edu/directory/jes-matsick-ph-d  

https://psych.la.psu.edu/directory/acs312  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jul 2, 2019

Welcome to episode 130 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT. In this episode Dr. Cat speaks to me about BDSM, what does a BDSM relationship look like? How many people like some aspects of BDSM and learning to negotiate the rules and expectations. 

 

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro science, somatic theory, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work for private practice, workshops, and transformational retreats that are designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. For personal therapy work, check her out at CatMeyer.com 

  

She is the co-creator of Goddess Celebration, an annual large scale women’s day retreat held in Malibu, CA, dedicated to uplifting and celebrating the goddess in every women. 

  

Dr. Cat is also host to the popular podcast Eat.Play.Sex on iTunes, in which she brings you expert guests talking on how to ignite your love life both mentally, physically, and relationally. She also gives daily advice and wisdoms about all things sex, love, and yoga on Instagram. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does a BDSM relationship look like? 
  • The relationship BDSM has with sexual identity  
  • The power play dynamics of BDSM  
  • How many people like some aspects of BDSM  
  • The feelings of shame that arise around this issue  
  • When is a good time to bring up BDSM to your partner? 
  • How to talk about BDSM to your partner  
  • Negotiating the rules and expectations  
  • The different types of relationships that can flourish with BDSM  
  • The after-care process of BDSM 
 
 

 

Resources 

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-019-09590-x  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jun 25, 2019

Welcome to episode 129 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rachel Grant. We speak about healing from childhood sexual abuse, the sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face and going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor. 

 

Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.  

  

She brings to the table a passionate belief that her clients do not have to remain trapped or confronted daily by the thoughts or behaviors that result from abuse. Through her own journey of recovery from sexual abuse, she has gained insight and understanding about what it takes to overcome abuse. This makes it possible for her to relate to and appreciate your struggles intimately.  

  

Based on her desire to foster community, intimacy, and connection, she has dedicated much of her time to understanding relationships and communication and how they are impacted by abuse. For her, how we are relating to others is crucial to improving the overall quality of our lives. In addition to the lessons she's learned along the way, she has attended various lectures and trainings to further hone her skills.  

  

Her program, Beyond Surviving, has been specifically designed to change the way we think about and heal from abuse. Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used this program since 2007 to help her clients break free from the past and move on with their lives.  

  

She holds an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She provides a compassionate and challenging approach for her clients while using coaching as opposed to therapeutic models. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Rachel became interested in this work 
  • How we are very quick to blame ourselves for sexual abuse  
  • The sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face  
  • Falling into the trap of doing things out of obligation  
  • The importance of consent and negotiating  
  • The impact of sexual abuse on a child’s developing brain  
  • The impact of trauma on the brain  
  • Can abuse affect sexual preferences and blueprint?  
  • Understanding you don’t have to live with a sense of brokenness  
  • Going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor 
 
 

 

Resources 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jun 18, 2019
 
 

Welcome to episode 128 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I speak more in depth about talking to your kids about sex. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The sex negative messages we receive as kids  
  • What to do if you catch your child involved with sexual activity  
  • Learning how to communicate the subject of sex to your child 
  • The importance of talking about your values  
  • Understanding that children are naturally curious about sex 
  • The common sexual behaviours between child age groups  
  • Be comfortable in using the correct names and terminology around sex 
  • The importance of teaching them about personal boundaries  
  • Providing clear information around safety  
  • Having a good dialogue about sex on the internet 
  • Understanding the importance of not providing negative information around body changes  
  • Talking about basic self-contraception  
  • Having a continued discussion around masturbation and consent 
  • Explaining the various different sexual interests people will have 

 

Resources 

Age 10 & up:

What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls: Revised Edition by Lynda Madaras

What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: Revised Edition by Lynda Madaras

It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library) by Robie H. Harris

Age 9 & up:

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: Expanded Third Edition: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell

Age 7 to 11: 

The Care & Keeping of Us: A Sharing Collection for Girls & Their Moms by Cara Natterson

Age 4 to 8: 

Those are MY Private Parts by Diane Hansen

Age 4 & up: 

It’s Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (The Family Library) by Robie H. Harris

https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf  

https://www.nctsn.org/resources/sexual-development-and-behavior-children-information-parents-and-caregivers  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jun 11, 2019

Welcome to episode 127 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a recap episode where I revisit some of our previous episodes to help bring you the best orgasmic tips.  

In this episode, we will revisit:  

Episode 39 

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, professor and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live fuller, richer lives through the art and science of psychology. 

As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students, helping them find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards, and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/10/03/everything-you-need-to-know-about-orgasm/ 

Episode 06 

Dr Barbach’s work as a couple’s therapist for more than three decades and the publication of Going the Distance: Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love crafted with David Geisinger, Ph.D., her partner of 32 years, has defined her as an acknowledged expert on intimate relationships. She is skilled in a variety of treatment modalities in treating individuals and couples with problems ranging from anxiety and depression to parenting and communication issues. 

Full Episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/04/02/how-to-please-your-lover-by-dr-lonnie-barbach/ 

Episode 124  

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She’s here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.   

She has bachelor’s degrees in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real Simple. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/05/21/from-solo-sex-to-partnered-sex/ 

Episode 110 

Dr. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She is a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and completed her postdoctoral fellowship from the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/02/12/fake-orgasms/ 

Episode 65 

Dr. Debra Wickman is a gynecologist with more than 20 years of experience. She completed a fellowship in Female Sexual Medicine at UCLA, and is also trained as a sexuality counsellor. Her model of diagnosis and treatment incorporates programs that uniquely educate, empower, and encourage personal growth, sexual discovery and healing for women. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/04/03/holistic-sexual-medicine-with-debra-wickman-m-d/ 

Episode 59  

Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/02/20/extended-massive-orgasm-by-dr-steve-bodansky/ 

Episode 114  

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. 

Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/03/12/female-orgasm-with-dr-emily-nagoski/  

Resources 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

Helen Fisher Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYfoGTIG7pY  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jun 4, 2019

Welcome to episode 126 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer a listener's question on what to do when his wife doesn’t want to have sex anymore.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The definition of a sexless marriage  
  • How this is a global issue  
  • How sex is a form of attachment  
  • The way in which no sex can be a by-product of relationship dissatisfaction  
  • Why couples refrain from sex  
  • The need to repair the relationship before tackling the issue of lack of sex  
  • Understanding the need to reflect on your own wants and needs  
  • The importance of processing these emotions  
  • Trying to pinpoint when these issues first arose  
  • The different stages of love we experience in a relationship  
  • The importance of communication throughout this process  
  • Creating time in your life to work on this issue  
  • Tips and recommendations to help begin improving such as date nights  
  • Introducing novelty into the relationship to create excitement  
  • Understanding and tackling sexual boredom  
 
 
 

 

Resources 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

Helen Fisher Ted Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYfoGTIG7pY  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

May 28, 2019

Welcome to episode 125 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Melvin speaks to me about chronic illness, the challenges of dealing with this issue, the uncertainty and anxiety it can create and tips on how to regain a sense of sexual normality. 

 

Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. Dr Phillips has worked in several mental health and substance abuse treatment settings including outpatient community mental health, inpatient treatment, and private practice for the past 13 years.  

 

He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, revalidating sexuality for couples with chronic pain and illness, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. He has published in the Journal of Baccalaureate Social Work, conducting a research study on LGBTQ-Affirmative Teaching at Historically Black Colleges and Universities: Understanding Program Directors Views.  

 

He holds a Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) degree in Organizational Leadership with an emphasis in Behavioral Health from Grand Canyon University in Phoenix, AZ. In addition, Dr Phillips holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from Norfolk State University and is an adjunct professor in the Master of Social Work Program with the School of Social Work at Western New Mexico University. Dr Phillips currently is currently in private practice in Washington, DC., where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How the is a common issue but one of talked about enough  
  • The challenges of dealing with chronic illness 
  • The side effects of becoming hooked on medication  
  • Learning to continue to enjoy pleasure through chronic illness  
  • How people going through this feel a part of their relationship has been stolen from them 
  • The uncertainty and anxiety it can create  
  • The impacts on your desire level  
  • Learning more about retrograde ejaculation  
  • Tips on how to regain a sense of sexual normality  
  • The importance of communication through this issue 
  • The way in which sexual rigidity can cause further problems  
 
 

 

Resources 

www.ccccmentalhealth.com 

www.drleephillips.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

May 21, 2019

Welcome to episode 124 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Vanessa Marin to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about masturbation, the common myths surrounding female orgasm, how porn and the media only represent one kind of female body and experimenting with sex toys.  

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She’s here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.  

She has bachelor’s degrees in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real Simple.  

 Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through courses like The Passion Project: A Couples’ Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark and Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm, she finds immense joy in spreading the message that we all deserve more from our sex lives.  

Vanessa’s business is actually a family affair! Vanessa’s sister Jennifer is her right-hand woman. And since her husband Xander joined to help manage the online portion of the business, they have joined forces to start talking about the challenges faced in modern day relationships  - including their own - with the goal of exploring how a fulfilling sex life plays an integral role in a healthy relationship. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The common myths surrounding female orgasm  
  • The issue of women hating their bodies  
  • How porn and the media only represent one kind of female body  
  • The rise of plastic surgery to change the shape of genitalia  
  • Redefining four play – why it’s not just a prelude to penetrative sex  
  • What is a pre-orgasmic women? 
  • The shame that still exists around masturbation  
  • Ways to further explore your own journey with masturbation  
  • How masturbation can be a form of self-love and self-care  
  • Recommendations on discussing masturbation with your partner  
  • Transferring new sexual skills from masturbation to sex with your partner  
  • The importance of communication and specific instruction  
  • Experimenting with sex toys  
 
 
 

 

Resources 

https://vmtherapy.com/online-sex-therapy-programs/  

 

The Vulva Gallery - www.instagram.com/the.vulva.gallery  

 

Jennifer Gunsaullus Episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/04/18/the-power-of-masturbation-with-dr-jennifer-gunsaullus/  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

May 14, 2019

Welcome to episode 123 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rae McDaniel to the podcast. In this episode they speak about the difference between being bisexual and heteroflexible, taking the first steps to explore your sexual curiosity and understanding the need to treat potential dates and partners with care and respect as you explore your sexual curiosity.   

Rae McDaniel is a Gender and Certified Sex Therapist who works with folks feeling anxious and lost about a transition they’re experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity, or relationships. Rae also provide consultation & training for professionals and organizations wishing to uplevel their knowledge and expertise in these areas. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a therapy and healing collective in Chicago, Illinois.  

Rae holds a Master of Education in Community Counseling from DePaul University in Chicago and is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois. Rae graduated from the University of Michigan’s Sexual Health Certificate Program with specializations in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education and is a Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • What is the difference between being bisexual and heteroflexible? 
  • Does consuming the same sex porn make you homosexual?  
  • The difficulties people experience when they find out their partner is consuming same sex porn  
  • How western culture is more accepting of women being bisexual than men  
  • The discriminations that still exist on society today for showing any affection to the same sex  
  • How bisexuals struggle for support even within the LGBTQ community  
  • Taking the first steps to exploring your sexual curiosity 
  • Understanding the need to treat potential dates and partners with care and respect as you explore your sexual curiosity 
  • How to start the dialogue with your partner around this issue if you’re in a monogamous relationship  
 

Resources 

http://www.practicalaudacity.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

May 7, 2019

Welcome to episode 122 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Gina Gutierrez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about sexuality and desire, the differences between men and women when it comes to desire and arousal, the downsides of getting your sex education from porn and the need to make desire open, communicative and vocal. 

Gina Gutierrez will probably ask you how you’re feeling when she meets you. As co-founder and CEO of Dipsea, Gina is an empathy-driven entrepreneur focused on helping women feel sexually, mentally, and emotionally empowered through audio storytelling. Dipsea’s stories help women tap into their sexuality on their own terms, unlock confidence, and develop a more holistic sense of well-being. 

Armed with a degree in psychology from Duke, Gina saw her career as a brand strategist take off when she moved to the San Francisco Bay Area. There, she started working with leading startups and Fortune 500 companies, including Facebook, Google, Reebok, ThirdLove, and DoorDash. But many late nights spent talking with friends about their experiences with fun, sexy content made her realize something: there was actually very little of it made for women, especially not in audio format. So, in 2018, she and friend  

Faye Keegan combined their left-brain and right-brain strengths to launch Dipsea. The design-forward, female-focused, sex-positive app delivers short-form audio stories that help women and couples tap their inner sexual powers accessibly. 

Just one year since launch, Dipsea has already been featured by ELLE, Marie Claire, Vox, and TechCrunch, and has raised $5.5 million in funding. All this despite Gina and Faye being told that a startup focused on female pleasure and erotic content wasn’t “venture-backable.” 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The differences between men and women when it comes to desire and arousal  
  • How ethics around porn can get in the way of desire  
  • The main things people were searching for when it comes sexuality  
  • The way in which porn has been designed predominantly for male desire  
  • Why is the psychology of the brain overlooked for women?  
  • The downsides of getting your sex education from porn  
  • How psychological arousal and desire is missing for a lot of people today  
  • What can we do to increase sexual desire? 
  • The need to make desire open, communicative and vocal  
  • How Gina and her team create the content for Dipsea Stories  
 
 

 

Resources 

Dipsea app  https://dipseastories.com/sexology  

Episodewith Dr. Emily Nagoski 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/03/12/female-orgasm-with-dr-emily-nagoski/  

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/03/14/come-as-you-are-an-interview-with-dr-emily-nagoski/  

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/

Apr 30, 2019

Welcome to episode 121 of Sexology Podcast. Today, I am delighted to welcome Dr. Carmon Roman to the podcast. In this episode, we will analyze why sexual assault survivors might not report the assaults. Furthermore, we’ll review the approaches to helping survivors during their journey of recovery.

Dr. Roman is a caring listener with over 25 years of experience in providing psychotherapy, in Mexico and California. She is also the host of a wonderful, bilingual weekly podcast, Emotions in Harmony, through which she weaves together the psychology and spirituality of both cultures.

In this episode, you will hear about: 

  • History of Denim Day
  • Emotional barriers that might get in a way of reporting an assault
  • Best ways for victims to protect themselves if they choose to report
  • Role of family members in supporting survivors of sexual abuse
  • True vs. false beliefs that a survivor might develop as a consequent of the incident
  • The process of recovery

 

Resources

https://emotionsinharmony.org/

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/06/20/celibacy-desire-with-dr-carmen-roman/

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression:

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

 

To book an appointment with us: https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

If you are experiencing strong emotions related to past or present trauma and you are looking for resources to get support, you can can visit RAINN’s online hotline (https://hotline.rainn.org/online/) or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-4673.

Apr 23, 2019
 

Welcome to episode 120 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome Jonathan Miller to the podcast, in this episode he speaks about ways in which can start to have difficult conversations around sex, the importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually and understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partner's thoughts and emotions.  

Jonathan helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.  

He truly believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life, and communication is the main ingredient. Growing up, he was never taught to fully express himself or hear others in a way that fostered connection. He is now committed to sharing his newfound passion for clear communication using his world-class training methodology. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Recommendations on what to talk about before having sex for the first time  
  • The best time in a relationship to first talk about having sex  
  • The importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually  
  • Ways in which to talk about difficult sexual issues, such as having an STI  
  • How to tell your partner that you slept with someone else  
  • Understanding the need to take responsibility  
  • How to first approach your partner about potentially opening up your relationship  
  • An interactive role play between Nazanin and Jonathan dealing with these issues 
  • Understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partners thoughts and emotions 
 

 

Resources 

www.mindfulcommunication.me  

 

Bonus Episode: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Apr 16, 2019

Welcome to episode 119 of the Sexology Podcast. In the run up to season 8 of Game of Thrones, this week’s episode is a solo episode where I discuss the five hottest sex scenes from the show and what we can learn from.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why people associate Game of Thrones as a more sexually charged shows than other TV shows
  • Does the show give people a legitimacy to have taboo fantasies?
  • The top five categories of sexual fantasy
  • How physiological arousal doesn’t automatically correspond to your erotic template
  • How group sex / orgies are at the top of most people's sexual fantasy
  • Understanding the need to start slow when acting out role play with your partner
  • The importance of role play in a relationship to keep elements of danger and excitement
  • Understanding the attraction of a rape fantasy
  • The sexual power play dynamics Game of Thrones creates in its scenes
  • The role romance plays in a sexual fantasy
  • Understanding why the Jon Snow and Ygritte sex scene is the most popular

 

Resources

https://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/11/293/ EP27 - Sexuality in Game of Thrones

https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428

https://www.ledevoir.com/culture/ecrans/552035/grand-angle-le-trone-de-fer-c-est-nous#

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Apr 9, 2019

Welcome to episode 118 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. Dr. Rhoda was my guest on episode 90 talking about Age Play and she returns to talk further about this issue. In this episode Dr. Rhoda touches upon how we can incorporate Age Play into a relationship, the role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed and how seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful.

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL.

She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.

Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality with all the wonderful unique flavors that come with it. Shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear are poisonous to healthy sexual expression so letting go of old, irrational and impractical belief patterns can pave the way for a new and exciting beginning.

Her recent book, No More Hiding: Permission to Love your Sexual Self, is a guide for those seeking help with alternative sexuality such as BDSM, Kinks, fetishes and open relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • What is Age Play?
  • How can we incorporate Age Play into a relationship?
  • The areas of discomfort a partner might experience
  • The role that shame plays in keeping these desires suppressed
  • How our erotic template is like our fingerprints / DNA
  • Is it possible to learn to enjoy Age Play if it’s not part of our template?
  • The starting points to being introduced to Age Play
  • Learning that Age Play is a component part of your sexuality and not the entire piece
  • How seeking out online communities and conventions can be very helpful

 

Resources

www.drrhoda.com

dr.rhoda@yahoo.com

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/25/age-play-dr-rhoda-lipscomb/

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Apr 2, 2019

Welcome to episode 117 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lonnie Barbach to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Lonnie speaks to me about how to please your lover, the barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs, the importance of compatibility and chemistry and restoring intimacy.


Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at the sex advisory and counseling unit at UCSF and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes. Her best known books include:


For Yourself, For Each Other, Pleasures, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cofounder of Happy Couple a relationship game app designed to enhance a couple’s communication and satisfaction.


In this episode, you will hear:

  • The barriers that might get in the way of meeting a partner's sexual needs
  • How there is an expectation for us to be mind readers when it comes to sex
  • The way in which our sexual interests evolve over time
  • The importance of compatibility and chemistry
  • Maintaining a willingness to explore new things and keep things interesting
  • Making sure to create time for sex and not just when you’re tired
  • Can intimacy be restored if it’s been lost?
  • Understanding that it’s to create a schedule for sex
  • Being open your partners erotic template


Resources

https://www.lonniebarbach.com

http://www.happycouple.co/en/


https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Mar 26, 2019

Welcome to episode 116 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the strategies and tools that you may implement to feel confident about your body inside and outside the bedroom.

 

In this episode, I will discuss: 

 

  • The statistics around how common it is to experience dissatisfaction about one’s body
  • The relationship between weight concerns and mental health
  • Improving your self-image as a way to transform your sexuality
  • The mirror exercises that address negative views of one’s genitals.
  • Strategies around getting comfortable with your body and your partner’s body
  • Challenging your negative self-talk through writing letters

 

 

Resources

Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode – https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

 

Mar 19, 2019

EP115 - Can Men Suffer from Low Libido? 

 

Welcome to episode 115 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I discuss the issue of men who suffer from a low libido.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common misconceptions around this issue 
  • Learning to understand that not all men have a high sexual desire  
  • How low libido can commonly get mistaken with lack of sexual motivation  
  • How men suffer from a similar issue to menopause called andropause 
  • The contributing factors that lead to andropause 
  • The importance of having a broad sexual life with your partner 
  • Learning to be open and communicative about any sexual desires and fantasies you might want to try with your partner 
  • The effects culture and religion can have around this issue  
  • Recommendations on what you can do for treatment 
  • How the strategy of “simmering” can help to improve this issue  

 

Resources 

Sexology Podcast Bonus Episode - https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/ 

 

Previous episodes relating to this issue: 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/18/low-libido/ 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/05/30/mismatched-libido-with-renelle-nelson-lmft/  

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/01/08/sensate-focus/  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Mar 12, 2019

Welcome to episode 114 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski to the podcast. In this conversation, Emily speaks to me about orgasms, the contributing factors that lead to more intense orgasms, achieving orgasm through meditation and thoughts on G-spots.  

 

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.  

 

She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm?  
  • How all orgasms are unique and different to each other  
  • The contributing factors to more intense orgasms  
  • Understanding that sometimes orgasms can take work and patience  
  • Not letting past negative sexual experiences define your future experiences  
  • Achieving orgasm through meditation  
  • Thoughts on G-spots  
  • The pressure of sex just becoming a performance  
  • How the orgasm gap is less for lesbian women

Bonus episode: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/

 

Resources 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

  

 
Mar 5, 2019

Welcome to episode 113 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Cheryl Fraser to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Cheryl speaks to me about keeping passion alive through long term relationships, recommendations for recreating thrill and excitement and approaching your partner with sexual ideas that might be considered taboo.  

 

Dr. Cheryl Fraser is an award-winning sex therapist, and a Fulbright scholar who created the Become Passion home study series and the Awakened Lover weekend intensive for couples. She has a private practice in sex and couples' therapy. Personally, and professionally, Dr. Cheryl has confronted the intense, joyful, and painful emotions of relationships, from I Do to divorce, and on to Mindful Loving. This human touch makes her writing, workshops, and media appearances on sex and relationships so accessible and effective. 

  

Dr. Cheryl completed her post-doctoral training at the University of California-San Francisco medical school. She conducted research on sexual behaviour and attitudes, and combatting homophobia. She has also taught college and university, and keeps a busy private practice, where she specializes in sex and couples' therapy. She is a certified Gottman marriage therapist.  

 

She teaches weekend intensive “bootcamps” for couples, and her Become Passion home study program teaches couples how to create sustainable, lifelong emotional intimacy and sexual passion. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Is it possible to keep passion alive in a long term relationship? 
  • The three steps Dr. Cheryl recommends for keeping passion alive  
  • Why scheduling sex can seem boring but also an important tool to use  
  • Understanding that your relationship needs energy and focus to keep it passionate  
  • How there is a time limit to the “honeymoon” period and what to do afterwards  
  • Learning to resolve conflicts in a healthy way  
  • Recommendations for recreating thrill and passion  
  • Approaching your partner with sexual ideas that might be considered taboo 

 

Resources 

http://www.drcherylfraser.com  

 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 26, 2019

Welcome to episode 112 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Martha speaks to me about polyamorous relationships, the common misconceptions people have around polyamory, how therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective? 

 

Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.  

 

Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The alternative relationship structures Martha has worked with  
  • How she became interested in polyamory  
  • The challenges people face in polyamorous relationships  
  • How Martha’s research showed polyamorous relationships can last for 26 years  
  • The sense of community and support polyamory can provide  
  • The common misconceptions people have around polyamory  
  • How not every polyamorous relationship is sexual  
  • The fear and intimidation people still face around this issue  
  • The role that jealousy can play in polyamory  
  • How therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective? 
 

 

Resources 

https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/06/12/ep75-polyamory-and-finding-loves/

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 19, 2019

Welcome to episode 111 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lourdes Viado to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Viado speaks to me about open relationships, how they work, the essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path and why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship.  

Dr. Lourdes Viado is a depth psychologist, providing psychotherapy for adults in her private practice in Las Vegas NV, as well as mentorship and consulting services to clients world-wide.   

She is a Myers-Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI) Certified Practioner and uses a Jungian approach in her work with clients, integrating mindfulness, dream work, shadow work, metaphor, literature, poetry and astrology in her work with clients 

She is also the host of the top-rated Women In-Depth Podcast: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women, which has been downloaded over 225,000x in 96 countries and 6 continents. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The different types of open relationships  
  • How open relationships are more common than most people realise  
  • What does the fidelity agreement look like? 
  • Questions you should ask yourself before considering opening up your relationship  
  • Understand and process the reasons why you want to open up your relationship  
  • How for some the idea of an open relationship is better than the reality of one 
  • How there is no right or wrong to come to an agreement on an open relationship, each one is entirely unique  
  • The essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path  
  • The importance of open communication and not going down the path of not wanting to know what your partner may or may not be doing 
  • Why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship 

 

Resources 

Women In-Depth Podcast 

www.lourdesviado.com  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Feb 12, 2019

Welcome to episode 110 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Janet Brito to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Brito speaks to me about why people fake orgasms, the reasons for doing so and ways to break through this issue and have better sex.  

 

Dr. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She is a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and completed her postdoctoral fellowship from the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations.  

  

Dr. Brito has been featured on many outlets, including The Huffington Post, Playboy, Healthline, Women’s Health Magazine, Thrive Global, and Midweek Publications. Her dissertation A phenomenological analysis on infertility in Mexican women living in the United States was recently published in the Revista Interamericana de Psicologia/Interamerican Journal of Psychology.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How common is it for people to fake orgasms?  
  • The reasons why someone might fake an orgasm? 
  • The influence that pornography has had on our sexual expectations  
  • Why pornography is not a good resource to shape your sexual template  
  • The need for more stimulation and foreplay to achieve better sex  
  • Why there is no right or wrong way of having sex  
  • Learning to be attentive and focus on your partners needs and desires  
  • Be open and honest with your partner so you can communicate effectively around this issue  
  • Why orgasms can be inconsistent and unreliable  
  • How men are more able to compartmentalize relationship issues from sex  

 

Resources 

http://sextherapyhawaii.com 

https://www.instagram.com/drjanetbrito  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 5, 2019

Welcome to episode 109 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Shannon McHenry, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Shannon speaks to me about working with trauma and sexual assault victims, the challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality and how partners can support their loved ones through this process. 

 

Shannon McHenry, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty focus in childhood trauma, rape and battering, and PTSD. She is a trauma therapist in Los Angeles and works with clients in her offices in Los Feliz and Torrance.  

 

Combining clinical experience with a passion to support women in repairing their relationships with themselves and others, she has supported many to create a long-lasting recovery from destructive behaviors. Call Shannon today to book your first appointment. 

 

If you are struggling with recovery and would like to know more about Shannon’s services, contact her today for a free consultation. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Shannon became interested in working with trauma  
  • The challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality  
  • Physiological responses from trauma survivors 
  • Why victims of sexual might blame themselves and not seek the help they need  
  • How the idea of revealing clothing being the root cause of sexual assaults undermines men’s sophistication and levels of control  
  • The way in which alcohol and other substances can be used as an excuse for sexual assault 
  • Understanding that consenting to one form of sexual interaction doesn’t by default also mean consenting sexual intercourse  
  • What does sex look like for victims in the long term? 
  • How partners can support their loved ones through this process  

 

Resources 

https://oasis2care.com/trauma-therapist-torrance/

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

1 2 3 4 5 6 Next »