Sexology podcast untangles the science of sex and pleasure. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.
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Aug 22, 2017

Welcome to episode 33 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Bonet who speaks to me about sexual jealously, the impact mistrust can have on a relationship and the differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous.

Shortly after earning her PhD in 1998, Dr. Bonet left the field of psychology to pursue a technical career. She worked in tech for many years doing project management and launching the first website to do online trading of international securities. She then left that field to be a stay at home mom and entrepreneur, growing her prenatal yoga business into an award winning company. 

She has been a yoga teacher for over 15 years and was the founder of the award winning Yogafairy Prenatal Yoga. She won The 2014 Top 100 Leading Moms in Business award, grew an international community of mothers, and ran the company for close to 15 years before selling the company in May of 2016 to focus on her private practice.

Dr. Bonet returned to the field of psychology in 2008. She opened her own private practice located in the Ft. Lauderdale/Broward County area in Hollywood, Florida in 2010. As a certified Hypnotherapist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Bonet helps people feel more emotionally stable, happier and more connected to their partner, friends, and loved ones of their choosing. Specialties are hypnosis for anxiety reduction and chronic conditions, couples counseling (Gottman Level 1 certified) and Perinatal MoodDisorders (PSI certified).

Dr. Bonet also recently launched her podcast, Hypnotize Me, in December 2016 which has over 20,000 downloads and is listened to in over 70 countries. Hypnotize Me is about hypnosis, transformation, and healing.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How sexual jealously is natural
  • The evolutionary purpose of jealousy
  • How jealously can manifest itself in relationships
  • The way jealously affects polyamorous and monogamous relationships differently
  • The impact mistrust can have on a relationship
  • Why jealously and competiveness can be similar but are distinctly different
  • The differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous
  • Is it possibly to get rid of these feelings of jealousy?
  • How hypnosis can be used around this issue
  • Being comfortable with yourself and your own feelings



Aug 15, 2017

Welcome to episode 32 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D. is joined by relationship-counselor, Dalila Jusic-LaBerge LMFT who helps women find peace and happiness after divorce and separation. During this interview, we examine steps that one would need to take before re-entering the dating scene and the keys to having great sex after divorce.


Dalila Jusic-LaBerge is the owner of Be Here & Now Counseling. She helps women and teenage girls heal from trauma and emotional wounding so that they can enjoy life and love. Dalila specializes in working with accomplished professional women who yearn for love but feel lost in romantic relationships. Utilizing mindfulness and mind-body oriented modalities, she helps them heal, connect to their own emotions, develop intuition, while readying them for connections on deeper emotional levels. This empowers women to be authentic and in touch with who they truly are. Dalila focuses on helping her clients manage difficult feelings and emotions that come with stress, anxiety irritability, and anger, all of which can prevent them from enjoying their lives and engaging in gratifying relationships. Dalila provides services online and sees clients in her Agoura Hills and Westlake Village offices.



In this episode, you will hear about:


  • The challenges that people face when they decide to reclaim their sex life after divorce
  • The pros and cons of continuing sexual relations with your ex-partner
  • The duration to wait before having sex
  • The signs of emotional readiness for intimacy with a new partner
  • The approaches in communicating your desires and turn-ons with your new lover


For a very limited time period, Dr. Nazanin Moali offers reduced fee appointments for sexology podcast listeners who are interested to explore their sexuality. To book an in person or online counselling appointment, please call (833) 376-5254.




Aug 8, 2017

Welcome to episode 31 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, we discuss various components of the arousal template and explore the origin of our erotic yearnings and desires.

In this episode, you will hear about:

  • The benefits of knowing your arousal type.
  • The erotic core template and its changes throughout your life.
  • The distinctive love-map that is unique to each of us.
  • The concept of love-map as designed by sex researcher John Money.
  • The importance of identifying your eroticized feelings as core component of arousal template.

The integration of your fantasies as a way to develop a deeper understanding of your psyche.

Contact Dr. Moali’s office (833) 376-6254 to book an online or in person appointment. Dr. Moali offers limited reduced fee appointments for sex therapy until the end of September as an attempt to meet AASECT certification criteria. 



Aug 1, 2017

Welcome to episode 30 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Lanae St. John. In this episode, we discussed why it’s important to talk to teens about sex and the importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens.

Lanae St. John, DHS, ACS, is board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • How Lanae became interested in child adolescent sexuality
  • Why it’s important to talk to teens about sex
  • How it’s not always sufficient just to rely on schools for sex education
  • The need for clarity and correct information in sex education
  • Ways in which parents can discuss consent with their teens
  • How parents can help facilitate the coming out process for homosexual teens
  • The importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens
  • How parents support their teens if they are engaging in risky sexual behaviour
  • The importance for teens to not fear the reactions of their parents when discussing these issues



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Jul 24, 2017

Welcome to episode 29 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Deborah Tolman who speaks to me about her research on adolescent sexuality, the double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality and recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges.


Deborah L. Tolman is a developmental psychologist and the co-founder of SPARK: Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge. She is the author of Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality, which was awarded the 2003 Distinguished Book Award from the Association for Women in Psychology. Deborah received her Ed.D from Harvard University in 1992. She is also the former director of the Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, and professor of human sexuality studies at San Francisco State University. Before relocating to San Francisco, she was a senior research scientist and the director of the Gender and Sexuality Project at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College.


Deborah is currently a professor of social welfare and psychology at the Hunter College School of Social Work and the Graduate Center of CUNY. Her research on adolescent sexuality, gender development, gender equity and research methods has been funded by grants from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, the Department of Health and Human Services, the Ford Foundation, and the Spencer Foundation.


In October 2010, Deborah co-founded SPARK (Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge), an intergenerational "girl-fueled" movement building organization (with Lyn Mikel Brown) dedicated to challenging the sexualization of girls by engaging girls to be activists and working with partner organizations around the country. SPARK links academia to activism and demonstrates an alternative to the divisive "wave metaphor" regarding feminism.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • Details on her research on adolescent sexuality
  • The importance of differentiating teens and young adults in the research
  • How the results and language terminology differ between teens and young adults
  • The pressures teen girls and young women face around slut shaming
  • The double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality
  • How young women and teens are pressuring themselves to achieve “the perfect image”  
  • The negative connotations that exist when trying to open up feelings around sexuality
  • The implications eating disorders can have on self-image and sexuality
  • Recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges



Jul 18, 2017

Welcome to episode 28 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about how she became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships, how a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex and the underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures.


Dana Nelson is an American psychologist and psychotherapist, originally from Northern Virginia, who now lives and practices in Lyon, France. She completed her masters degree and PhD in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University, and worked for a number of years in community mental health as well as university counselling center settings prior to moving to France in 2014. While in graduate school in rural central Pennsylvania (one of the least likely place to meet a Frenchman, you would think!), Dana met her current partner, a French international student working on his PhD in engineering at that time. After 3 years together in the US, they both graduated, and he moved back to France for a job. Then, after 2 years of being in a super long-distance relationship from Pennsylvania to France, Dana decided to embark on her first-ever experience of living abroad and moved to France to join him. They now live together in Lyon, and Dana opened her private practice there last year, where she works with English-speaking expats, intercultural couples, international students, and others living abroad. Dana's most recent adventure has been starting a podcast of her own, called Mindful Expat, which focuses on issues of emotional wellbeing and resilience for expats, intercultural couples, and others living abroad. 



In this episode, you will hear:


  • How Dana became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships
  • The underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures
  • How modern technology has allowed us to have relationships with people all over the world
  • Sexual experiences; how inter-cultural couples rate their experiences compared to couples of the same culture
  • The need for honest and open communication when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • How a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex
  • Learning to be respectful and understanding of a person’s cultural background when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • The importance of seeing things from your partners perspective
  • Seeing and understanding your partner as their true authentic selves



Jul 11, 2017

Welcome to episode 27 of the Sexology Podcast, in the run up to the release of season 7 of Game of Thrones, my guest today is Tamara Powell, LMHC who speaks to me about why as sex therapist she thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows, the attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in the show and why we are fascinated with sexual war.


Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.


Most recently, she launched her own podcast Undressing The Spirit, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.

 In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why Tamara thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows
  • How it reminds her of Nancy Friday’s seminal work in the 70’s & 80’s
  • The attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in Game of Thrones
  • Why we are fascinated with sexual war
  • How the show can give you ideas for your own fantasies with your partner
  • Misconceptions about why Game of Thrones is sexually appealing
  • Why the forbidden is attracting and exciting
  • How people are too quick to relate the show to pornography
  • The way women’s sexual desires are represented through characters such as Daenerys Targaryen
  • The sexual power dynamics that exist in the show

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Jul 4, 2017

Welcome to episode 26 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is , who speaks to me about the psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have, the similarities between BDSM and Tantra and the roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM. 

Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT is a marriage & family therapy provider who practices in West Hartford, CT. She is also the author of "Playtime: Not Just for Children" and she is known as "The Sex Doctor." In addition to her expertise in the field of sexuality, her specialties include couples counseling, eating disorders, alternative relationship styles, anxiety, depression, and ADHD. By mutually establishing goals with clients, Amanda uses coaching and therapy to overcoming current struggles and barriers.

Amanda believes that everyone out there has the potential to have an amazing life: personally, socially, relationally, and sexually. She will help make you healthier and happier by assessing your emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual life experiences and equip you with the tools to accomplish your goals!

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The definition of BDSM – bondage & discipline, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism
  • The psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have
  • How there is a lot of trust within BDSM
  • The deep level of communication that exists within BDSM
  • Common behaviours that Amanda see’s
  • The similarities between BDSM and Tantra
  • The misconceptions created by Fifty Shades of Grey
  • Ways in which our culture can create feelings of shame in this area
  • Recommendations for the first ways you can start to get involved in BDSM
  • The roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM
  • The need for negotiation, compromise and understanding when engaging with BDSM
  • How to bring up your interest in BDSM with your partner
  • Why Amanda wrote her book “Playtime: A Guide To Sexual Conquests For Women”


Jun 27, 2017

Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom!

Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.

Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).

Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.



In this episode, you will hear:


  • Why she created her quiz; how healthy is your sex life?
  • Healthy aspects of sexuality Jess see’s in couples
  • How couples can slowly lose interest in sex and need new fantasies
  • The pressure of running out of new ideas for sex
  • Deepening your relationship to help increase intimacy
  • The need to be open and able to communicate with your partner about these issues
  • Overcoming unresolved sexual issues that can spill into a relationship
  • Contributing factors that lead to sexual avoidance
  • How porn is sexual entertainment, not education  
  • The need to keep educated about sexual issues
  • Ways in which you can begin to overcome sexual avoidance
  • Developing healthy habits for your sex life



Jun 20, 2017

Welcome to episode 24 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Carmen Roman, who speaks to me about she got into the line of work of celibacy, how people live without sex and the unintended consequences of not being sexual. 

Dr Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and 5+ years in California. She is known for her ability to create a safe place to help you to explore your deepest feelings and tap into your inner wisdom or get resources to cope with emotional trauma. Using Gestalt Therapy and transpersonal psychology, she will support you to live with awareness and responsibility to create the transformation you are longing for.

Her clients are psychologists, counselors, religious leaders, and people in the entertainment industry. Based on Gestalt therapy she helps clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and paranormal experiences.

She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master’s and PhD levels. All those credentials are a toolbox to her as she tailors them to your needs. She uses the science of psychology as needed in every case. Her focus is your transformation and the improvement in your relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How Dr. Roman became involved in this work
  • Details on her workshop on celibacy which she has ran for the last 15 years
  • The relation between sexual abuse and celibacy
  • Issues surrounding male values over female values
  • How celibacy means only to be unmarried and not to withdraw from sex
  • How religious interpretations of celibacy have changed over the centuries
  • Ways in which in priests or people of faith deal with celibacy
  • Her thoughts on sexual abuse that has happened within religious organisations
  • The need to not put priests or other religious people outside of scrutiny when dealing with sexual abuse
  • The unintended consequences of not being sexual



Jun 13, 2017

Welcome to episode 23 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., who speaks to me about how the internet has impacted our sex lives, defining compulsivity in relation to pornography and how social media can hinder our real life social skills. 

Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., is a Professor and Program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She received her master’s in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University Calumet and her doctorate in human development with a specialization in marriage and family therapy from Virginia Tech. She is a globally recognized researcher studying sexuality, technology, and its effects on couples. As she examines the role of technology in couple and family life, Hertlein has developed the first multi-theoretical model on this issue.

In addition to technology and relationships, Hertlein’s other areas of expertise include infidelity, sexuality, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Approved Supervisor, and a PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Counselor.

Hertlein has co-authored 8 books, including Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, The Therapist’s Notebook for Family Healthcare, Handbook for the Treatment of Infidelity, Systemic Sex Therapy, and A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, the last revision of which won the 2017 AASECT Book Award. She has published more than 60 articles in the notable journals in her field, contributed over 40 chapters to books, and serves on the editorial boards for several academic journals. She was recently appointed as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy.

Hertlein has also won several awards for her teaching, mentorship, and work in the field of sexuality research, including the Integrated Approaches to Sex Therapy Award through AASECT. 

In this episode, you will hear:


  • How the internet has impacted our sex lives
  • The impact of pornography on self-esteem
  • How too much consumption of pornography can lead to a higher and higher need for stimulative images / videos
  • The side effects of watching too much porn; erectile dysfunction
  • Defining compulsivity in relation to pornography
  • How the internet has impacted people’s sexual behaviour and infidelity
  • The need for more people to show their vulnerability
  • How we have our “edited versions” of ourselves on social media
  • Sexting; what it is and the benefits and risks that come with it
  • How social media can hinder our real life social skills




Jun 6, 2017

Welcome to episode 22 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Joe Zarate-Sanderlin. In this episode, we talk about the psychology behind sexual fetishes.

 Joe ZaRAte-SANderlin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist seeing clients in private practice in San Francisco, California. He has been active in the open relationship and BDSM communities in New York, Boston, and San Francisco for nearly 20 years.  He earned his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Montecito, California. Pacifica highlights the need for therapists to do their own inner work. As a part of this, Joe has examined the role of the unconscious dark side of the personality, often called The Shadow, in his own life and in the lives of his clients.

As a part of his training as a therapist, he worked under the supervision of Dossie Easton, co-author of The Ethical Slut, The Topping Book, and The Bottoming Book. For two and half years, he primarily saw clients in open relationships and BDSM relationships under Dossie’s guidance. In addition to working with Dossie, Joe was a counselor in a Catholic elementary school for three years and he volunteered at a low-few non-profit therapy clinic in San Francisco for four years.

His interest in alternative sexuality includes helping normalize some activities that can carry a stigma while recognizing that those activities can sometimes become disordered and cause stress. He has focused on unpacking the shame that many people feel regarding their sexuality. He is also interested in the historical and cultural aspects of relationships and sexuality and he is passionate about challenging the bias toward hetero- and mono- normative relationships and toward binary views of gender.

Since he became licensed in 2013, he has continues his focus on working with clients in the LGBT, open relationship, and BDSM communities. He is a member of both Gaylesta and Bay Area Open Minds, two San Francisco Bay Area based organizations that promote and support therapists working with LGBT, open relationship, BDSM, and alternative sexuality communities. He was recently named to the Bay Area Open Minds board as social coordinator.

Joe has conducted trainings for other therapists on couples therapy, BDSM, open relationships, and talking to clients about about sex as well as guest lectured about couples therapy on the master’s level. He is in the early stages of writing a book about the role of attachment in open relationships.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • What sexual fetishes are
  • How sexual fetishes can be healthy for people
  • The more common fetishes Joe see’s in his practice
  • How there could be many more people with fetishes than we realize
  • The role society plays around this issue
  • How people with fetishes can still be aroused without fetishes
  • Ways in which people develop fetishes
  • How shame and guilt plays a big role in fetishes
  • Creating safe spaces for people to be able to talk about fetishes
  • Ways in which to support someone in y our life who has a fetish
  • The need for good communication and engagement



May 30, 2017

Welcome to episode 21 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 11 years. In this episode, she talks about what it means to have a low libido, how it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem and recommendations for couples dealing with this issue. 

Renelle hails from the state of Milwaukee, Wisconsin and got indulged in the profession of Marriage and Family Therapy in Grad School. Renelle was able to attain the first-hand knowledge of the silenced suffering and agony of women specifically due to lack of education and self-awareness, while working at A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center. These experiences led her to transition her passion of working for the betterment of women and others into a profession as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.


Over the years, Renelle has worked exclusively with a large number of men and women and families who are in need of assistance, guidance, and counseling. Renelle has been able to work in tandem with a great number of her clients and has been able to successfully find the plausible solutions of their problems related family and sex life. Renelle is a self-proclaimed self-pleasuring advocate who is always on the lookout for opportunities to spread the knowledge regarding the many benefits and advantages of self-pleasuring, and self- love with the world. Renelle has spoken at a numerous renowned speaking events on topics regarding self-pleasuring and depression concerned to oppressed sexual life and problems.

Renelle is also an owner of Kaleidoscope Services LLC which is a platform specifically made for the purpose of enhancing common individual knowledge regarding these sexual aspects of life and their connection with the issues related to anxiety and depression. Renelle primary objective is to use her remarkable skills and natural talents to enhance, educate, and excite the people life in and out of the bedroom.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • What it means to have a low libido
  • The definitions of a low libido and what is defined as normal
  • Why you shouldn’t compare your sex drive to what it was like when you were younger
  • Struggles with desire
  • How it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem
  • The need for good communication around this issue
  • Unresolved issues around anger
  • How high levels of stress can affect your sex life
  • The controlling power dynamic
  • How the ideas of being defective can produce feelings of shame
  • The effects of getting sexual information from pornography
  • The difference from having a low libido and being a-sexual
  • Utilizing sexual novelties
  • Recommendations for couples dealing with this issue



May 23, 2017

Welcome to episode 20 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Deborah Sundahl, who speaks to me about female ejaculation, the misconceptions, how all women have the capability to ejaculate, ways in which to learn how to ejaculate and the psychological and physiological benefits from ejaculating.

Deborah Sundahl is the foremost pioneer, popular expert on female ejaculation and the G-spot. She is the author of the seminal book, Female Ejaculation and the G-spot (Hunter House, 2003/2014). Her 30 years of groundbreaking contributions to this field include a line of videos titled the Female Ejaculation Sex Education Series (Isis Media, Inc.), which Deborah produced and hosts. She lectures and gives workshops in North America and Europe, and has taught thousands of men and women how to integrate the G-spot and female ejaculation into their erotic lives. She continues to be a spokesperson for female sexuality and an advocate for sex education. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The definition of female ejaculation
  • Scientific studies that show what female ejaculation is
  • How ancient cultures knew about female ejaculation
  • How all women have the capability to ejaculate
  • Misconceptions around this issue
  • The need for more educational material on this topic
  • Psychological and physiological benefits
  • The role Tantra has played over the years for female ejaculation
  • The empowerment that comes with honouring your body and sex life
  • Ways in which to learn how to ejaculate
  • The need to stimulate the g spot to ejaculate
  • The need to let go and not confuse urine with ejaculate
  • How spirituality can play an important role around this issue



May 16, 2017

Welcome to episode 19 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Laurie Watson, LMFT. In this episode we talk about how you can get the spark back, and the importance of understanding different sex drives and ways to address them.

Laurie is a certified sex therapist who has twenty-five years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope about their healing and happiness. The difficulty is convincing them to give up the idea that only their partner will have to change!”

She authored her first book Wanting Sex Again – How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage (Penguin) in December 2012. A popular blogger for the general public with over 1.6 million reads on Psychology Today Online in Married and Still Doing It, Laurie also lectures professionals at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. Featured in her hometown in the N&O, Laurie has also been published or quoted in most every nationally popular magazine like Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc.

A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro. Director/owner of Awakenings, Center for Intimacy and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 6 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro.

She’s a member of St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, has been married for 30 years and has three grown sons.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How important sex is, in a marriage
  • What are some of the causes of a sexless marriage
  • How couples can develop a power struggle in a relationship through a sexless marriage
  • Ways in which in couples can reconnect
  • The different sexual dynamics between a man and a woman that can lead to a sexless marriage
  • Understanding each other’s sex drives, what works and doesn’t work in the bedroom
  • The need for women to have clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, only 15% of women reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation
  • How couples can get stuck in a loop of not having sex
  • Overcoming the stresses of modern life, work, kids etc to have a healthy sex life
  • The different reasons why men and women will withdraw from sex



May 9, 2017

Welcome to episode 18 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Debra Mollen. In this show she discusses women’s reproductive rights, the myths and misconceptions around abortion and the consequences of limiting reproductive rights; e.g. DIY abortions.

Debra Mollen is a psychologist, Professor, and Director of the Counseling Psychology Master’s Program at Texas Woman's University in Denton, Texas. She has published scholarship on women’s sexuality, multiculturalism, reproductive justice, and professional development in various academic journals. Debra is a recognized as a Certified Sexuality Educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and was the 2016 recipient of the Distinguished Graduate Faculty Award from her university. She is a Co-Chair for the Revision of the American Psychological Association Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Girls and Women and past-Chairperson of the Division 17 (Counseling Psychology) Section for the Advancement of Women

Her specialties include: Multicultural awareness and diversity training, training and professional identity, sexuality education, childfree women, feminist theory and therapy

In this episode, you will hear:


  • The rights women have when it comes to reproduction
  • The myths and misconceptions around abortion
  • How women can feel a sense of alienation and hopelessness when confronted with abortion
  • How there isn’t any recognizable science or data for “Post Traumatic Abortion Syndrome”
  • The ways in which our culture can pressure women into motherhood
  • How our modern society can romanticize having children
  • How limiting women’s reproductive rights could influence their sexuality
  • Consequences of limiting reproductive rights; DIY abortions.
  • Knock on effects: trauma, anxiety, and depression
  • How legislators are chipping away at women’s reproductive rights
  • Ways in which to counteract the legislators
  • The need for good quality education and information on this issue

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May 2, 2017

Welcome to episode 17 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Firestone. In this episode, Dr. Firestone talks about the definition of a “Fantasy Bond”, childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality and the need for self-compassion around these issues. 

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012).

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The definition of a “Fantasy Bond”
  • How common it is for people to experience the Fantasy Bond
  • Repeating destructive behaviours throughout different relationships
  • Being able to experience healthy sexuality without acting out from your past
  • Childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality
  • Identifying if you’re reacting in a fantasy bond as opposed to reacting authentically
  • The need for some people to have certain fantasies to be aroused
  • The importance of being vulnerable with your partner in a relationship
  • Overcoming the shame that not being vulnerable can create
  • Why both partners in a relationship need to be authentic with each other
  • Voice Therapy – How it works and its similarities to Narrative Therapy
  • The need for self-compassion and not be too self-critical 


Apr 25, 2017

Welcome to episode 16 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is the creator of Talk Sex with Me, Tara Spears, LMFT, LMHC. In this episode, Tara talks about ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery, how to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography and clarifying and communicating your own sexual values to your child.

Talk Sex with Me was created by Tara Spears. Ms. Spears graduated with a Master’s Degree in Counselor Education from the University of Central Florida in 2005. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. She has over ten years of experience working with individuals, children, families and couples encountering a variety of hardships in life. After spending, most of her career responding reactively to situations or intervening after a crisis (i.e. a child’s removal from the home, failed adoption, and the aftermath of abuse), Ms. Spears decided to take a more proactive approach.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Tara became involved in this line of work
  • The appropriate age for parents to start talking about sex with their children
  • Why parents shouldn’t over-react if they find their children masturbating
  • Ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery
  • Clarifying your own sexual values
  • Communicating those values to your child
  • Knowing the distinction between sexual education and “putting sexual ideas” into your child’s mind
  • How to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography
  • Making sure pornography doesn’t set their expectation for sex
  • Communicating to younger children if they walk in on their parents having sex
  • The best ways to react if your child becomes pregnant or impregnates someone else
  • Negative connotations in school sex education and how to navigate around this issue

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Apr 18, 2017

Welcome to episode 15 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sociologist and sexologist Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. In this episode, you will hear Dr. Gunsaullus talk about the normality of masturbation and how often people engage in it, positive effects from masturbation and ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation.

Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, is a frequent speaker about sexual empowerment, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, sexual consent, sexual health, and mindfulness. She has presented two TEDx Talks, is a writer on sex and relationships, and a recurring intimacy expert on the San Diego morning news. Her In the Den with Dr. Jenn educational video series has over 1.3 million hits on YouTube and she is an expert in the new documentary on masturbation, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story. In addition, as a martial arts practitioner, she was recently promoted to black belt in Korean karate -- so watch out for this badass doctor!

In this episode, you will hear:


  • The normality of masturbation and how often people do it
  • How it’s normal for children to discover masturbation
  • General concerns people have, is it harmful?
  • How cultural and religious beliefs have negatively impacted people’s views on masturbation
  • Misinformation – No, you can’t go blind from masturbation
  • Positive effects from masturbation, mentally and physically
  • Overcoming shame and embarrassment with meditative masturbation
  • Masturbating in a relationship, does it hurt the relationship?
  • Having open communication with your partner on this issue
  • The psychological effects using toys and vibrators can have
  • Ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation
  • How many of our currently held cultural views of masturbation were created in the 19th and 20th century

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Apr 11, 2017

Sexology Podcast EP14 - Sexual Empowerment with Dr. Patti Britton


Welcome to episode 14 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton. In this episode, Dr. Britton talks about what sexual empowerment entails, how shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure and becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity.


With over 35 years of experience and pedigreed credentials as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton has built a reputation as a pioneer of sex coaching. Her methodologies for helping individuals and couples achieve their desired sexual potential are well known among professionals in her industry. As co-founder of SexCoachU, she has trained hundreds of sex coaches throughout the world, spreading her groundbreaking approach to sexual healing. Dr. Patti’s work has been featured on national TV programs, such as The Montel Show, Hard Copy, CNBC, and CBS News. She raised the bar in her field when she published the first book on Sex Coaching, entitled ‘The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice’.


While her methods and unique approach have developed into training other sex coaches, Dr. Patti’s true passion lies in working with individuals and couples to achieve their sexual goals. Whether it’s a desire to heal sexual dysfunction, overcome shame, or deepen an intimate connection, Dr. Patti is at right at home with finding the solution.


In this episode, you will hear:


  • What sexual empowerment usually entails
  • Sexual actualisation and realisation and the right to feel pleasure
  • Some of the factors that lead to people losing their sexual power and desire
  • How shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure
  • Ways in which to refresh your sex life
  • Clarifying your views around sexuality
  • SAR – Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring
  • Allowing yourself to enjoy sexual pleasure and masturbation
  • Navigating your value system with your sexual desires
  • Becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity
  • How things have changed since the release of Fifty Shades of Grey




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Apr 4, 2017

Welcome to episode 13 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sex and relationship coach; Pam Costa. In this episode, Pam talks about how she began her journey into educating people about sexuality, the ways in which shame can shape our sexuality and how you can build shame resiliency.

After a decade and a half at Apple and Facebook, Pam left her career in high tech to found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. She hopes that her journey from struggling with sexual desire to a now rich and rewarding sex life can provide an example of how normal issues with desire can be, and how these issues can provide unexpected pathways for increased intimacy and connection.

As a Somatica® sex and relationship coach, she enjoys working with individuals and couples of all configurations to explore what is possible emotionally and erotically in their relationships. She is currently accepting and seeing clients over Skype and in-person in her office in Cupertino, CA. She also provides content and guidance for Down To There Circles: free, peer-led discussion groups, where friends can support and inspire each other around sex and relationships.

Her ongoing studies include training with San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI), American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), JFK University's holistic counseling program and the Somatica® Institute.

Her writing has been featured on Huffington Post, Mindful and Psyched and she has also spoken at the Wisdom 2.0 and Inman conferences.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Pam began her journey into educating people about sexuality
  • The ways in which shame can shape our sexuality
  • Body shaming; and how it can affect sex
  • The difficulties in communicating what you want sexually, leading to vulnerability
  • How poor sex education can lead to shaming
  • Not having enough information on sex from our parents
  • The affects religion can have on sex and correct information around sex
  • Mixed messages that children can pick up from their parents about sex
  • Identifying your own shame and figuring out where it came from
  • Being scared to share your shame with your partner
  • Building shame resiliency
  • How shame can affect other things outside of sex; eating disorders, addictions etc.
  • Communicating with your close friends about shame



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Mar 28, 2017

Welcome to episode 12 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m speaking to Natalie Finegood Goldberg, LMFT, CST about the issues surrounding erectile dysfunction. In this episode, Natalie talks about the causes of erectile dysfunction, its physiological and psychological factors contributing to this struggles and steps that can be taken to overcome this issue.

Natalie Finegood Goldberg is an AASECT Certified Los Angeles Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC #53017) specializing in sex therapy and psychotherapy. Working with individuals and couples, Natalie offers therapy services at her private practice in Beverly Hills. Previous work experience includes being a staff clinical associate at Center for Healthy Sex in West Los Angeles, as well as having previously worked at Cliffside Malibu, a dual diagnosis inpatient drug and alcohol rehab. Natalie was born and raised in Los Angeles and is familiar with the variety of pressures that come with living in LA. 

In addition to her degrees, Natalie has participated in a variety of trainings including a Clinical Sexology training with Dr. Patti Britton, Bridging the Couple Chasm: A Research Based Approach by Drs John and Julie Gottman, and the Sex Addiction Treatment Training Program with Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S. Natalie completed the rigorous requirements to become a sex therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) under the supervision of Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S and Dr Tammy Nelson, CST-S. Natalie is trained in EMDR Therapy with advanced training in AF-EMDR (Attachment Focused EMDR) with Dr Laurel Parnell. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The physical and psychological reasons why erections occur
  • How as men get older they need a mixture of physical and psychological stimulation to get an erection
  • The criteria that needs to be met to be diagnosed with erectile dysfunction
  • How erectile dysfunction is related to all sexual activity, not just for example masturbation
  • The physiological and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction
  • Why men prefer the problem to be physiological
  • How taking Viagra can make things worse if the problem is psychological
  • The effects anxiety can have in relation to erectile dysfunction
  • The impact erectile dysfunction can have on couples / relationships
  • How masturbation and pornography can affect erectile dysfunction
  • Available treatments both medically and psychologically
  • The average time treatments can take
  • The additional benefits mindfulness can bring
  • The importance of communication to help overcome this issue
  • Ways you can regain your sexual energy
  • Understanding that erectile dysfunction is a multi-layered issue that needs ongoing support




Mar 23, 2017

Welcome to episode 11 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m going to talk about 4 myths around sex that I see are very common in my practice. Originally, I wanted to do 13 myths to tie in with the Persian new year but that might have taken a little while to record… So the myths I have chosen are the ones I hear most frequently in my practice, and I hope this episode will shed some light and truth on these myths.


In this episode, you will hear:


Myth 1 – Penis size dictates a woman’s sexual pleasure


  • The average penis size when erect is around 13cm or anywhere between 9 – 16cm
  • In inches, the average size is from 4.7 to 5.1 inches
  • How the medias idea of 7 inches being the average size is wrong
  • How shame and anxiety come into play because of this myth
  • Research shows that the size of a penis has no true physiological effect on female sexual satisfaction
  • The importance around the perceived size of a man’s penis
  • How men who perceive their penis to be small suffer from sexual confidence
  • Feeling comfortable and confident with your body and penis size to have a good sex life


Myth 2 – How masturbation has destructive consequences physiologically and mentally


  • Research shows that 60 – 94% of men have masturbated at least once, with 40 – 60% having done it in the last month
  • 43 – 85% of women have masturbated at least once, with 20 – 43% having done it in the last month
  • There’s no known negative consequences physiologically or mentally from masturbation
  • Studies have shown it helps in knowing one’s own needs for sexual pleasure, increased autonomy and body integrity improving self-esteem
  • How the myths of masturbation date back to the 17th century
  • How the majority of people continue masturbating when in a committed relationship


Myth 3 – Men are obsessed with sex and women don’t think about it


  • There’s no data to support the idea that men think about sex every 7 seconds
  • How this myth puts pressure on men to be overly sexual


Myth 4 – Vaginal sex is the best way for women to reach orgasm


  • How Freud invented the term “Vaginal Orgasm” without scientific basis
  • Most women can’t reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, they need clitoris stimulation and other kinds of stimulation to reach orgasm
  • How men can get frustrated because they can’t make women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone




Mar 14, 2017

Welcome to episode 10 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Emily Nagoski. In this episode, Emily talks about the dual control model and how sex works in the brain, how attachment with our partners affects our sex life and the societal factors that affect women’s sexuality.

Emily is the author of the New York Times bestseller, COME AS YOU ARE: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life (Simon & Schuster, 2015). She has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a Master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She also has a B.A. in Psychology, with minors in cognitive science and philosophy, from the University of Delaware. While at IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. She also taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. 

Emily is also the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man, The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, and A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships, as well as both author and narrator of Come as You Are.

A sex nerd among sex nerds, Emily has the lowest Erdős number of any sex educator in the world. She lives in western Massachusetts with two dogs, two cats, and a cartoonist. She’s funnier in real life (and hardly ever speaks in the third person).

In this episode, you will hear:


  • The dual control model and how sex works in the brain
  • The concept of break and accelerators
  • Sexual relevancy and the importance of context
  • How it’s easier to change our external environments rather than internal
  • Figuring out how to turn of the things that are hitting our sexual brakes
  • Eating disorders; the struggle with self-image
  • How the shame around body shape and size is more harmful than the fat itself
  • Learning to love your partner as their body naturally changes
  • How attachment with our partners affects our sex life
  • Why your brain thinks sex is more exciting at the start of a new relationship
  • Learning to be close with your partner whilst still sexually attracted
  • Societal factors that affect women’s sexuality
  • The taboo of women who love sex, e.g being called a slut
  • Why we shouldn’t live up societies standards for our sexual accelerators and brakes


Mar 7, 2017

Welcome to episode 09 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Sandra LaMorgese. In this episode, Sandra speaks about how she made her journey into BDSM at the age of 55, misconceptions around the BDSM community and turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment.

Sandra is an author, speaker, and CEO of Attainment Studios, a sex positive business directory website designed to bring together members of the sex-positive community, and for finding solutions for your professional and personal needs. She is an expert in communications, life transformation, authentic living, health, wellness, and intimacy.

Sandra is also an internationally featured Huffington Post blogger, a regular writer for Arianna Huffington’s new health and wellness platform Thrive Global, and among the top 10% of writer on Medium in 2016. She was listed as having the “Coolest Job in NYC” by Thrillist NYC, and her interview and photo shoot with Huffington Post ‘15 Unbelievable Photos of A 60-Year-Old Dominatrix with Her Client‘ article made the ‘MOST SHARED’, WHAT’S HOT and ‘TRENDING’ lists on The Huffington Post in the United States and Australia. 

Her recent book Switch: Time for a Change, is a memoir about how her later profession as a dominatrix ultimately allowed her to change her previously blind adherence to “the rules,” and to enter into a whole different kind of contract with a truer version of herself. Sandra was able to change her thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in order to embrace a passionate and fulfilled life.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Sandra’s background and the different roles she’s had in her career
  • How she made her journey into being a dominatrix at 55 years of age
  • The relationship between vulnerability and authenticity
  • How the internal changes we make to ourselves can impact our surroundings
  • Exploring the unconscious through sexual play
  • How Sandra becomes present and mindful in her BDSM sessions
  • The importance of really connecting when being intimate
  • Misconceptions around the BDSM community
  • The dynamic of dominance and submission
  • How people of power like to be a submissive in BDSM
  • The connection between sexual energy and creativity
  • The importance of trusting the process with BDSM
  • Turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment
  • Giving a voice to our true self
  • Overcoming boredom through excitement and curiosity



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