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Sexology podcast untangles the science of sex and pleasure. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.
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Dec 17, 2019

Welcome to episode 155 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Fiona O'Farrell to the podcast. In this episode Fiona speaks with me about paper dolls, how they can be used as a vehicle for self-pleasure and understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive 

 

Fiona O'Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sex Educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. In her practice, she works with clients on issues relating to sexual identity, dismantling sex negative messages, and enhancing pleasure and intimacy.  

 

She is the coordinator of the Sexuality Therapy and Sex Education Certificate Programs at Antioch University in Seattle and teaches classes in human sexuality, sex therapy, and relationship therapy. Fiona is dedicated to expanding sex ed resources to be inclusive of body diversity and challenge binary thinking. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • How paper dolls allows for diversity  
  • Having many options available as an add-on 
  • Using paper dolls for sexual arousal 
  • Accessing good materials to process self-image 
  • Understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive  
  • The reactions Fiona sees from participants? 
  • How you can use paper dolls as a vehicle for self-pleasure 
 

 

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Find Fiona here 

www.adaptivecounselingseattle.com 

fiona@adaptivecounselingseattle.com 

 

Find me on social media:  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Dec 10, 2019

Welcome to episode 154 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Amy C. Moors, Ph.D to the podcast. In this episode, Amy speaks with me about consensual non-monogamy, looking at the quality of attachmentand recommendations for how to deal with minority stress.  

 

Amy C. Moors, Ph.D., is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Chapman University and a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University. She also serves as the co-chair of the American Psychological Association’s Division 44 Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force. Prior to joining Chapman, she was the Director of the Social Science Research and Evaluation Program in the College of Engineering at Purdue University. She is an interdisciplinary researcher with backgrounds in psychology and women’s studies (Ph.D., University of Michigan), higher education (postdoctoral fellow, National Center for Institutional Diversity) and social science evaluation (researcher, University of Michigan's ADVANCE Program). 

  

Dr. Moors’s research interests lie at the intersection of gender, sexuality, interpersonal relationships, and inclusion. In one area of research she focuses on diverse expressions of sexuality, including same-sex/gender relationships and consensually non-monogamous relationships. In another line of research, she focuses on ways to promote inclusion in higher education. She has published more than 40 articles and has received several grants to fund her work. Recently, Dr. Moors was recognized as a “Rising Star” by the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • How Dr. Amy became interested in this line of research  
  • What is consensual non-monogamy?  
  • What the research says about the benefits of consensual non-monogamy 
  • The pressures we face to be the best at everything in life from lover to parent  
  • Expanding your tribe whilst being more sexually fulfilled  
  • Looking at the quality of attachment  
  • How the going assumption has been that monogamy is superior 
  • Dealing with the stigma surrounding this issue  
  • Recommendations to deal with minority stress  
 

 

101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot 

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Find Amy here:  

https://www.div44cnm.org/ 

https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=-e6ulXEAAAAJ&hl=en 

 

Find me on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Dec 3, 2019

Welcome to episode 153 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about the art and science of seduction, differentiating between friendliness and flirting, and how anyone can develop seduction skills. 

 

Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.  

 

Aly designs workshops and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.  

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • How Alison began working in sex education  
  • Differentiating between friendliness and flirting  
  • Mistakes people often make when flirting  
  • Learning to seduce yourself  
  • Looking at sleaze free seductions  
  • The importance of safety + turn on  
  • Understanding the founding principles of seduction 
  • Balancing out escalation and de-escalation  
  • Learning about the three-part invitation  
  • How anyone can develop seduction skills  
  • Recommendations if you want to go down this path 
 
 

 

101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot 

 

Find Alison here 

www.TurnON.love 

www.TurnON.love/freegift  

 

Find me on social media:  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 26, 2019

Welcome to episode 152 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about casual sex, how to best use dating sites like Tinder and emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex.  

 

Dr. Chavez is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, California where she provides individual and couples therapy, sex and relationship coaching, and workshops on sexual health and wellness.  

 

Her work focuses on adult sex education, integrating sexuality and spirituality, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. She frequently appears on national news, radio, and media as a sexual health expert. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • Limiting ideas that get in the way of women having casual sex 
  • The importance of exploration and having fun 
  • Learning to verbalize your wants and needs  
  • How having casual sex can give you the opportunity to take different kinds of risks 
  • How to best use dating sites like Tinder  
  • Dealing with the issue of liking someone who only wants casual sex  
  • Ways to initiate hook-up sex 
  • Emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex 
  • Making sure to manage your alcohol intake through this journey  
  • Morning after etiquette to follow  
 

 

101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot 

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Find Dr. Chavez here 

https://drshannonchavez.com  

 

Find me on social media:  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 19, 2019
 

Welcome to episode 151 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Shane Birkel to the podcast. In this episode he speaks with me about relationship challenges that affect sexual function, how excitement lessens as bonds deepen and ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation.  

 

Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice near Boston. He works primarily with couples and is a certified Relational Life Therapist with Terry Real as his mentor. 

  

Shane hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch that is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He is the creator of the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership site supporting therapists in their work with couples. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • Relational challenges that affect sexual function  
  • How many people don’t realize the negative habits they have that will impact sex in a relationship  
  • Looking at overdependence on our partners for how we feel about ourselves 
  • The importance of showing up as yourself as your relationship evolves  
  • Getting stuck doing the same things  
  • Ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation  
  • Understanding that your partner cannot meet all of your needs 
  • Learning to not put too much expectation on your relationship  
  • How excitement lessens as bonds deepen  
  • Looking at the issue of control  
 

 

101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot 

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https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/  

 

Find Shane here 

https://shanebirkel.com  

https://couplestherapistcouch.com    

 

Find me on social media: 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 12, 2019

Welcome to episode 150 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am joined by Dr. Robert Glover. In this episode we discuss the Nice Guy Syndrome, the issues nice guys have around sex, and the ways they can change things inside and outside the bedroom 

 
Dr. Robert Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world. 
  

As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships. 
 
Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University. He lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • What is the nice guy syndrome?  
  • What do nice guys struggle with?  
  • How now guys are terrible receivers  
  • The ways in which nice guys show up in the bedroom  
  • Why nice guys have issues around sex  
  • How nice guys struggle with being too routine  
  • Looking at the issue of paying for forms of sexual pleasure over communicating what you want  
  • Worrying too much about performance during sex  
  • Learning to take off the pressure away from performance  
  • How can nice guys change things in and outside of the bedroom? 
  • Learning to ask for what you need 
 
 

 

101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot 

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Find Dr. Glover here 

https://www.drglover.com/ 

 

Find me on social media:  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

 

Nov 5, 2019

Welcome to episode 149 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Tammy Nelson to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about sexual boredom, contributing factors as to why people cheat, and the concept of new monogamy.  

 

Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a  Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheated,  and the upcoming Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy due out in March.  

 

She is the Director and Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in Washington DC., a training Institute, and Think Tank focused on obtaining and creating sustainable relationships. She is also an expert consultant for Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Time Magazine, and is the host of a popular podcast, The Trouble with Sex. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • The common mistakes people make to become sexually bored  
  • How sexual boredom can be akin to eating the same food every day  
  • Why being too comfortable in a relationship can cause sexual boredom  
  • Contributing factors as to why people cheat  
  • How desire can increase for a partner when they show interest in someone else 
  • Increasing the quantity and quality of sex in a long-term relationship  
  • Rebuilding sexual intimacy  
  • How changes in personality and identity can lead to cheating  
  • Looking at the concept of new monogamy  
  • What’s the difference between new monogamy and old monogamy?  
  • Managing your unrealistic expectations  
  • The role that technology plays in these changes 
 
 

 

Find Dr. Tammy here 

 

Free gift:  

Email Tammy through her website and she will send you "37 Questions for your New Monogamy Agreement" -  a handout to create a relationship discussion that can help you start your new vision for the future of your new monogamy. 

 

Find me on social media:  

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Bonus: 

101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: Sign up and receive this checklist to spice things up in your relationship for free: http://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe 

  

Work with me: 

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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

 

Oct 31, 2019

Welcome to episode 148 of the Sexology Podcast! Today’s episode is a solo episode during which I will respond to listeners’ pre-recorded questions. Here are the questions that I will answer in this episode:

  • Why do so many women have spanking fantasies?
  • How common are BDSM fantasies?
  • How hard should a “normal” erection be?
  • How do I know if I am “hard enough”?
  • What do I do if I can’t get “hard enough”?
  • How can you get your partner to initiate sex more often?
  • How do you ask your partner to have sex without sounding desperate?

If you’ve got questions, I have answers! Record your questions here: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/ or email it to drmoali@sexologypodcast.com

 

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Books:

Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies

https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428

 

Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life 

https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958

 

Articles: 

http://www.repositoryeffetti.it/2010/agoraDisfunzioneErettile/download/letteratura/efficaciaClinica/Mulhall_JSM2007.pdf

 

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12734



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Work with me:

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Oct 29, 2019

Welcome to episode 147 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about the misconceptions people have around having good relationships, not over compromising in a relationship and finding your voice to communicate what you really want to your partner.  

 

CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples.  

 

They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others.  

 

They also run transformational retreats for couples several times a year, including Couples Mojo and Couples Alive. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

  • The misconceptions people have around having good relationships  
  • Learning to not over compromise in a relationship  
  • How the blame game comes into effect when you’re changing too much of yourself for a relationship 
  • The art of communicating this issue with your partner 
  • How having a good relationship doesn’t always mean you’re having good sex 
  • Strategies to help keep your partner excited  
  • Unconventional ways people can feel closer to their partner 
  • Being stuck having left over sex  
  • Learning to say how what you really want  
  • Recommendations to properly understand what your partner is communicating to you  
 
 

 

Find CrisMarie and Susan here:  

 

 

Find me on social media:

  

Work with me: 

 

Extra Content 

 

Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 22, 2019

Welcome to episode 146 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about sex and disability, the effect a chronic illness or physical disability will have on a person's sex life, and sex tips for individuals and couples.  

 

Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr. (pronouns: he, him, his) is currently a third-year doctoral student in counseling education and supervision at the University of North Texas. Jose’s research is focused on clinical interventions for interabled couples in couples’ and sex therapy. Specifically, Jose focuses on the adjustment process after one partner acquires a disability. Jose provides individual, couples, play, and family therapy with a special focus in working with disabled people in three languages (English, Spanish, and American Sign Language) at a private practice.  

 

Jose has spent time working with interabled couples at a private rehabilitation setting for people with brain injuries (TBI and Stroke). He has also presented at the national, regional, state, and local level on topics related to counseling disabled clients, interabled couples and sex therapy, and bilingual counseling and supervision. 

 

Questions Asked & Topics Talked About: 

 

  • Does having a physical disability change one’s sexuality? Is it possible for individuals with disability to have fulfilling sex lives? 
  • How does chronic illness or disability affect couples’ relationship and sexual dynamics? 
  • The research that Jose has done in this area  
  • Taking a look at the different relationship dynamics  
  • How couples can learn to enrich the emotional quality of their relationship after experiencing these changes? 
  • Overcoming the challenges people face through therapy  
  • What are some of sex tips that you have for these individuals and couples? 

 

Find Jose here:  

JoseTapia@my.unt.edu  

 

Find me on social media: 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Extra Content:

 

Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 15, 2019

Welcome to episode 145 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about using BDSM as a form of self-care and finding your healthier self, and provides recommendations on where to get started.  

 

Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW, is a sexuality/intimacy therapist/educator specializing in working with individuals who identify as kinky and/or consensually non-monogamous (poly, swingers, etc.); those who identify as gender non-conforming and/or have questions about sexuality; as well as those who need assistance with issues such as depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, communication/anger/intimacy issues and much more. In addition to standard individual, family and relationship counseling, Liz is currently expanding her practice to include supervising and training new therapists with her sex positive inclusive therapeutic approach.  

 

For the last few years she has been providing community/professional education regarding working with kinky clients, specifically with the intent of normalizing kink for professionals that work with kinky individuals and educating on the difference between domestic violence/assault and kink. Additionally, she has been providing support and education around parenting, relationship transitions, and co-parenting in the context of consensual non-monogamy.  She is a member of several organizations including American Association of Sexuality Educators, Clinicians and Therapists (AASECT), World Professional Association of Transgender Health (WPATH), Texas Association Against Sexual Assault (TAASA) and a board member with National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF). 

 

Questions Asked:  

  • How can you use BDSM as a form of self-care? 
  • What falls under the umbrella of BDSM? 
  • What are ways in which people will find their healthier selves through BDSM? 
  • Is it possible to find pleasure outside of your erotic template?  
  • How did Liz’s clients find body acceptance through BDSM? 
  • What are the first steps Liz would recommend doing?  
 

 

Find Liz here:  

 

Resources 

https://www.amazon.com/Screw-Roses-Send-Thorns-Sadomasochism/dp/0964596008   

https://fetlife.com  

 

Find me on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

  

Work with me: 

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/ 

 

Extra Content:

Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 8, 2019

EP144 - Getting Off Without Checking Out with Jessica Graham

 

Welcome to episode 144 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jessica Graham to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about incorporating fantasy in a healthy way, how sexuality is connected to spirituality, and using mindfulness to increase your desire

 

Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker.

 

As a gift to Sexology listeners, Jessica is offering one month free on Simple Habit!

 

Trial Code: WILDAWAKENING

First, sign-up for Simple Habit at http://www.simplehabit.com

Using a web browser, log into your account. Input the following link: http://www.simplehabit.com/redeem/wildawakening

Download the app and enjoy! The free trial will then be applied to your mobile app as well (ios and Android)

**Please note, the redeem link ONLY works on the web. Please do not try to input in the app.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why are so many partners checking out during sex?
  • Learning to incorporate fantasy in a healthy way
  • Exercises for body awareness
  • Incorporating healthy fantasies with your partner
  • How sexuality is connected to spirituality
  • Learning about the issue of orgasmic shame
  • How women are very cut off from their pleasure
  • Taking a look at the pleasure activism movement
  • Using mindfulness to increase your desire

 

Find Jessica here:

www.yourwildawakening.com

https://www.instagram.com/jessicaclarkgraham

https://www.amazon.com/Pleasure-Activism-Politics-Emergent-Strategy/dp/1849353263

 

Find me on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care/

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care/

 

Work with me:

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/

 

Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Oct 1, 2019

Welcome to episode 143 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dalychia Saah to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about allowing yourself to have more pleasure, why we struggle to connect with our bodies and finding your erotic voice. 

 

Dalychia Saah (she/her) is a sexuality educator, professor, writer, and speaker. Through her words and work, Dalychia facilitates space for people to connect deeper with their desires for their body, relationships, life, and our world. She is passionate about people unlearning oppressive norms that are externalized, inter-personalized, and internalized that keep us from moving towards a more liberated way of being. Dalychia believes that systematic forms of oppression can be overthrown by a reclamation of intra- and interpersonal power.  

 

Dalychia is the co-founder of Afrosexology, a pleasure based sex education platform that creates educational content and workshops to center the pleasure, empowerment, and liberation of Black people.  Afrosexology’s work covers topics such as masturbation, self love, enhancing communication in relationships, radical twerking, racialized sexual oppression, body agency and much more. Through Afrosexology, she has created space for tens of thousands of people of color to reclaim their sexuality and body agency.  

 

Dalychia is a lecturer professor at the Brown School of Social Work at Washington University in St. Louis, where she teaches graduate level courses in social theory, social justice, and sexuality education. She is also a sought after facilitator and keynote speaker for conferences and events related to social justice and/or sexuality.  

  

Her work and words have been featured in HuffPost, Teen Vogue, Allure Magazine, Vibe Magazine, Glamour Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Playboy Magazine, Broadly, and others. She has received the Phenomenal Woman Award, Spirit of Social Work Award, Rev. Robert Gilbert Advocacy Award, and Academy for Leadership & Civic Engagement Leadership Award. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The internal and external oppressive challenges that get in the way of pleasure  
  • A lack pleasure pride in our society  
  • How we seek to create goals and aims out of every aspect of our lives  
  • The detrimental effect of being too goal orientated 
  • Why struggle to connect with our bodies  
  • The power of self-care  
  • Liberation through masturbation  
  • Finding your erotic voice  
  • Learning to overcome our fears of allowing ourselves pleasure  
 
 

 

Resources 

http://www.afrosexology.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

 

Sep 24, 2019

Welcome to episode 142 of the Sexology Podcast! Today's episode is a solo episode where I discuss fantasizing about others while you're in a relationship, understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship, the way our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue, and how this is a very common issue for lots of couples. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Is it normal to fantasize about someone else while in a relationship? 
  • The importance of communication and dialogue when defining the parameters of your relationship  
  • The stigma attached to non-monogamous relationships  
  • How our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue  
  • Recognizing obsessional thoughts and what to do with them  
  • Being true to your own values  
  • Learning to not judge yourself for having certain thoughts  
  • Removing yourself from situations where you might regret a decision later, e.g. drinking at a social event  
  • Understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship  
  • The role that guilt and shame plays with this issue  
  • How this is a very common issue for lots of couples  
 
 

 

Resources 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 17, 2019

Welcome to episode 141 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Tara Galeano, L.P.C., CST to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about the challenge's women face in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment, incorporating a holistic approach with feminine energy and the first steps women can take to regain their sexuality. 

 

Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer. For the past five years, she has taught this class at Boulder Community Health.  

 

Currently, she is creating an online course based on this class to make the content more accessible to women everywhere. Tara is also inspired by her studies of Ayurveda, Sanskrit, and being a grandmother. She is currently writing a book based on the Rediscovering My Body class, so she may share widely with all those that are seeking sexual renewal after cancer. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The challenges in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment  
  • What is a dilator?  
  • How dilator’s can be used as a wonderful tool  
  • Overcoming breast cancer surgery and the feeling of loss 
  • Incorporating a holistic approach and feminine energy  
  • How do these issues vary between during and after treatment?  
  • The effect this issue has on partners  
  • Steps women can take if they experience low desire but want to remain sexual  
  • Understanding that it’s an ebb and flow issue that will change over time  
  • The feelings of guilt that can arise from not being sexual with your partner 
  • The first steps women can take to regaining their sexuality  
 
 

 

Resources 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Sep 13, 2019

Welcome to episode 140 (a) of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Susan Bratton to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sex toys, why couples are using them, how they can add sex appeal and changing the sexual dynamic of a relationship with a sex toy.  

 

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships.  

 

Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.  

 

Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”   

 

Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube channel. Through her Insider’s Club newsletter at Personal Life Media.com, Susan gives away, free of charge, countless MP3 audios, videos, articles, and ebooks.  

 

  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The reasons why couples are using sex toys  
  • Helping to bridge the orgasm gap  
  • Taking a look at certain sex toys such as cock rings  
  • What to look for in a sex toy when purchasing one  
  • Can sex toys change the dynamic of a couple's sex life? 
  • Understanding the clitoral erection  
  • Making the most of a clitoral erection  
  • How sex toys can add sex appeal  
  • Knowing the best times to approach using a sex toy with your partner  

 

Resources 

Personal Life Media  
Instagram@SusanBratton 
My YouTube 'Better Lover’ Channel  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 10, 2019

Welcome to episode 140 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about working with non-traditional couples, the sexual challenges they face and understanding what it means to be kink aware.  

 

Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years' experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking. Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The non-traditional relationship Stefani sees in her practice  
  • The stigma non—traditional relationships face when forming romantic relationships 
  • Working with sex workers  
  • Sexual challenges non-traditional couples face  
  • Working around jealousy  
  • The importance of negotiation and communication  
  • What does it mean to be kink aware? 
  • Things that get in the way of therapists working with people from the lense of kink awareness? 
  • How 2-5% of the population need a form of kink to be sexually stimulated  
  • Misconceptions around working with non-traditional couples  
 
 

 

Resources 

http://www.boundtogethercounseling.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Anorexia Nervosa & Sex: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 3, 2019

Welcome to episode 139 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about his new book (adultADHDbook), navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through, creating fairness and managing expectations and how an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex. 

 

Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Looking at the survey Dri Ari conducted for his new book  
  • Do men with ADHD experience more desire than women? 
  • Navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through  
  • The role medication plays in this issue  
  • Distractions during sex, looking at keeping focused and in the zone  
  • Does having sex make you a better person? 
  • How an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex 
  • Creating fairness and managing expectations  
  • Looking at the parent / child dynamic  
  • Other findings on how couples managed to make it work in the bedroom  
  • How can a partner help work on someone else’s issue? 
 
 

 

Resources 

https://adultADHDbook.com  

https://tuckmanpsych.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Aug 27, 2019

Welcome to episode 138 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I welcome Michael Vigorito to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about out of control sexual behaviour, examining the driving force behind it and understanding the best practices to deal with this issue. 

 

Mr. Vigorito is a sex therapist, author and consultant.  As a psychotherapist, he provides individual, couples and group psychotherapy for a range of sexual and behavioral health concerns. He developed a sexual health assessment and treatment protocol with Douglas Braun-Harvey, which was published in Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Rethinking Sex Addiction (2016) (SSTAR 2018 Health Professional Book Award Winner).   

 

As a sexual health consultant for Behavioral Health Systems Baltimore and University of Maryland - Prevention Research Center, Mr. Vigorito designed and implemented capacity-building initiatives to integrate sexual health into mental health and substance use disorder treatment. These programs offered trainings and technical assistance in conducting routine sexual health conversations, sexual risk-reduction counseling and LGBTQ cultural competency within behavioural health systems of care.    

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Defining out of control sexual behavior  
  • Examining the driving force behind this issue  
  • How common is this issue? 
  • Looking at boundary fidelities  
  • The consequences of trying to over-control sexual thoughts  
  • Is this a behavioral or addiction issue?  
  • Understanding not to adopt a disease narrative  
  • Using the framework of addiction issues to tackle this issue  
  • Are STD’s common for people dealing with this issue? 
 

 

Resources 

http://michaelvigorito.com  

 

Bonus Episode - Anorexia Nervosa & Sex: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/

Bonus Episode - Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode - Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Aug 20, 2019

Welcome to episode 137 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about what men can do to last longer in bed, the underlying issues of premature ejaculation and techniques that men can learn to help with this issue.  

 

Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.  

 

She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What can men do to last longer in bed? 
  • Simple and effective techniques men can use  
  • Understanding how your style of masturbation will affect your sex life  
  • How society has the wrong expectation on the duration of sex  
  • Learning to control your ejaculation, if only by a small amount  
  • How many men don’t know treatment is available  
  • Numbing techniques – picturing undesirable things whilst having sex 
  • Why numbing techniques don’t offer the best solution  
  • Why longer duration of sex doesn’t translate to better sex 
  • The relationship between sexual positions and duration  
  • Staying away from untested home remedies  
 
 

 

Resources 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Aug 13, 2019

Welcome to episode 136 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where I discuss how you can change your sexual schema.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How do you change your schema of sex?  
  • A personal story from Nazanin to help further unpack this issue  
  • How a lack of sex education impacted Nazanin’s life  
  • The conflicting messages on sex from society and religion  
  • How these messages become instilled as part of your development  
  • The feelings of guilt from wanting to experience sex  
  • The importance of values within acceptance commitment therapy  
  • Analyzing your own biases around sex  
  • Challenging the myth that you need to be married to have good sex 
  • Taking a look at alternative rebellion  
  • Writing down your own sexual thoughts and stories to help further express your sexual feelings 
 
 

 

Resources 

https://sexologypodcast.com  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

 

Aug 6, 2019

Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.  

 

Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.  

 

She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How do you define sexual avoidance?  
  • The implicit actions people take to avoid sex with their partners  
  • The ways in which this issue affects relationships  
  • How the incest taboo works in relation to this issue 
  • The root causes of sexual avoidance  
  • Creating spontaneity and excitement to maintain a healthy sex life 
  • Reconnecting with the exciting parts of lust from the early stages of a relationship 
  • How partners can view hobbies and interests as a threat  
  • The need to break out of your comfort zone to explore new aspects of a relationship 
  • How pain during sex can play into this issue  
  • Recommendations on how to improve sexual avoidance  
 
 

 

Resources 

Social Media - FacebookTwitter and Instagram 

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Jul 30, 2019

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones. 

Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.  

For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The benefits of self-pleasure  
  • Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure  
  • What is peaking?  
  • Overcoming the shame associated with self-pleasure  
  • Understanding the need for build-up to climax  
  • The way in which pornography gives us a false view of the female orgasm  
  • Recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones  
  • The common strokes that are helpful for self-pleasure   
  • Learning not to be dependable on sex toys  
 

 

Resources 

stevebodansky@gmail.com 

http://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com  

 

Extended Massive Orgasm: How to Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure 

The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm 

To Bed or Not to Bed 

Instant Orgasm 

Extended Massive Orgasm: The Novel 

Extended Massive Life: A True Love Story and More  

Pigetry 

Universe of Love: Poems of Yin and Yang 

Orgasm Matters 

Love and Alzheimer’s 

Switch Pitcher: Evolution of Darwin 

 

Previous episodes with Steve Bodansky 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/11/sex-and-alzheimer/  

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/02/20/extended-massive-orgasm-by-dr-steve-bodansky/  

 

Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/ 

Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/  

 

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

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